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I've been trying to join discord group calls and talk to people but the conversation goes so fast. Everyone in the call has so much more energy and emotion and when I try and speak it's either drowned out or sucks the energy out the call. I find myself just sitting silentley in the call. Then leave and have to lie down or take a nap because my brain feels fried from how intesne the call is. I don't have any family, friends, and can't work a job for that reason.
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>>34395662
maybe it's just not for you. if you're not good at it and you don't enjoy it, why bother? also you can absolutely work a job while having no social skills.
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>>34395688
The few jobs I've had sacked me due to not being anti social. Whatever nice "professional" term they could use for "I was making the customers uncomfortable" outside of those I can't get another job. I'm trying because I want to be part of a community so I stop feeling sad all day. I go for walks in the sun, workout, eat right, get enough sleep, have a strong hobby ect and I still feel dead and miserable so it has to be lack of community.
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>>34395698
unless you're actively insulting the customers (even then i see people get away with that all the time) i highly doubt that they would fire you for that.
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>>34395706
Well I did, multiple times, so don't assume things you don't know.
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>>34395718
i don't believe you, because i have worked alongside and interacted with many complete abject retards in customer service and they never got fired for anything.
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>>34395723
Sounds like you're just saying that to be devils advocate.
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>>34395738
nope, just sharing my observations. you have to be really fucking stupid to get fired from multiple customer service jobs.
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>>34395662
I HATE group calls. Thats why I only do one on one calls. Join a big public server, they tend to have 2 person vcs, sit in one and wait for someone to join and then just talk. I know it seems loserish to do but so many people do it in the servers Im in
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I am exactly like this and became a pilot. You just need to know how to state direct facts on the radio. Otherwise you dont need to talk to anyone,
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>>34395662
Honestly just try to be intensely and genuinely interested in someone, larp that way.
If someone says “Last week I went outside and saw a leaf”
Just try to think of as many questions as possible
“Do you like nature?”
“Do you go outside much”
“Was it a fun week?”
Meme answer but it’s an example. If you’re just constantly searching for questions you will never run out. And when you do get stuck just refer to an older thing being said.

Now DO THIS attentive listening thing, but don’t just ask questions. Once saw an autist do this about shit he wasn’t interested in and at the end of the day everybody thought he was weird and nobody really got to know him.

Essentially, try to think of a question, but tell a bit about yourself before asking it.
>Last week I went outside and saw a leaf
Can be followed up by
>That’s cool, I don’t go outside much, but when I do it’s usually a nice park or forest. Do you go outside much?
It’s a two-punch system. Punch them with your life and then ask something about what they said



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