24f, straight, virgin. I’ve kissed three men so far, none of whom felt like the love of my life but all of whom I was at least somewhat attracted to, and I simply do not understand the appeal. I suppose it’s a sensory thing; your lips rubbing against theirs is supposed to feel good? But it doesn’t feel good to me, just weird and wet. I read somewhere that exchanging saliva subconsciously helps you gauge genetic compatibility, i.e., if it tastes good you have the potential to bear strong children together. But I find it unlikely that all three of these men are genetic dead ends and/or distant cousins, or that the primary appeal of kissing has anything to do with the taste. Is the secret ingredient True Love, or am I doing something wrong?
>>34396522>Is the secret ingredient True Love, or am I doing something wrong?it would probably helpthere's nothing wrong if you don't want to kiss though, just don't kiss
You're not doing it right because you're supposed to have him run his fingers through your hair while you're on top of him grinding on his crotch and groping your ass and breasts.Making out isn't just, "teehee we le kissed" it's supposed to be a sensual and really intimate experience. I really like nibbling necks and putting my hands under her shirt to feel the small of her back, too.
>>34396522I think it's feels good and intimate
>>34396522Ok so it IS weird and gross you're not wrong about that but a lot of sex acts are and arousal is pretty much the only difference between a good time and a bad one as long as everyone involved is proficient at what they're doing.
>>34396522The fact you posted a pic of anime-styled men kissing makes me think you're a yaoi-fag and thus you're probably sexually fucked up in some way and can't find normal, straight men attractive.
>>34396529>>34396535>>34396538smut thread
>>34396542I am sexually fucked up (can only orgasm in my sleep but that’s an issue for another day) but I definitely find men attractive in a romantic sense and develop crushes and such
>>34396522feels good
People with autism frequently have issues getting into the sensory side of physical intimacy, from kissing to sex. Might also just be you haven't found the way you enjoy it yet, weren't in the mood enough, or so on. But my money's on autism.
>>34396606Interesting, my psychiatrist also suggested I might have autism
>>34396776There's probably options for you to get more comfortable with and feel more 'right' about kissing and whatever else you aren't sure about. It just might take more time and effort to figure out how to get to that point.
>>34396806I hope so. I desperately want a loving, normal, age-appropriate relationship, but I can’t shake the feeling that my sexuality operates differently than that of my peers. Sometimes I feel like a child in a woman’s body. I wish I knew how to grow up.
>>34396830I don't have many experiences to pull from, but I have some similar issues and I suspect I have autism as well. The best sex I've had has been with partners who were very flexible about pacing, willing to take breaks if I got weirded out. Or for making out, when I was close to orgasm I properly enjoyed it briefly, and then it went right back to being weird and I wanted nothing to do with it. Couple a patient and understanding partner with a professional to help you explore solutions, and a willingness to get to know your body and a curious approach to determine what works and what doesn't and you'll go pretty far.
>>34396847Like a therapist? Yeah, I’ve been meaning to get one for a while. For other issues mostly, but I should probably bring up the sex/intimacy thing too. Dealing with insurance is a pain though
>>34396857Yeah, it seems worthwhile.
