So i've been talking to some people since 2018, a friend from school days introduced me to them and we started talking etc. fast foward to 2026 i just feel like the odd one out. i'm 30yo and these people are 20-24, (apart from other 3 guys who are 29,30,34) who barely join the vc anymore.they are nice kids but theres somewhat of a valley between us. ive living a shitton of things like losing a parent, living alone and many other experiences that they cant relate, whenever i talk to some of them its like talking to a toddler who never experienced shit in life. should i just distance myself from these people?
>>34399028>the vcit's inevitable you'll drift apart with any friend group who you only do discord calls with, or sit around smoking weed togetherthis is especially true as you get olderyou need to do crazy shit with friends in order to maintain strong bonds, this is something people don't seem to understand lately>they are nice kids but theres somewhat of a valley between us. ive living a shitton of things like losing a parent, living alone and many other experiences that they cant relate, whenever i talk to some of them its like talking to a toddler who never experienced shit in life. should i just distance myself from these people?you don't have to go out of your way to distance yourself, but it's probably a waste of time/energy
>>34399028I don't think you should end your friendship with the groupI think you should act like an unc, a boomer.If all they do is talk on discord, and smoke weed, they're not really actively being friendsYou need to focus on hosting BBQs. And that will instantly seperate the wheat from the chaff. Host 2-3 BBQs, and you will know who wants to come over drink some beers and eat some meat, who will say they are interested and flake, and who will just not answer or engage in any way.Being an adult is knowing social events don't just happen, it takes effort to herd cats. Take on that burden
>>34399051>you don't have to go out of your way to distance yourself, but it's probably a waste of time/energywell talking to these people is a waste of time and energy because i have a different world view, i didnt have a phone or a computer untill i was 18 years old. and they're.. well gen z kids who grew up with this stuff, thats just one of the many things we think about differently, i cant talk to these people about adult stuff like paying bills or having responsibilities because they dont get it, they dont have experience. whats the point of talking to people like this?
>>34399028You don’t necessarily need to distance yourself from them if they are useful for other things. It just sounds like you are putting more expectations on them that they don’t want to or are unable to meet.You can still keep these connections, but you need to find new ones for the purposes of relating to death of a parent for example. You can’t expect a person to be your everything, that’s a lot to put on a single individual. You have to diversify. Get to know more people and keep the purpose of each relationship simple.
