1) coworker accountant, age 26, skinny, 5’1, wealthy father (mom died), really likes cats, wants to buy properties and start a business, republican 2) girl from my church, 5’5, age 20, friend of my sister, virgin, in college and hates it, wants to marry early, be a stay at home mom These girls have both expressed high interest in me. First girl appeals to me because she is more career-oriented, but I don’t like how she’s not brought up in the church (she’s a nominal Catholic) and seems to really like alcohol (while I don’t drink). Also a little worried that my sons would be short since she is petite Second one i like how she’s from the same religious background as me, she’s feminine, but she appears a tad bit lazy and directionless. I feel like a lot of these church girls are just looking for Christian sugar daddies because they don’t want to work. As for me, I am just a mix of these — very type an and career-oriented but also a religious conservative. So they both somewhat appeal to me but in different ways
>>343994412) Is there really anything wrong with her wanting someone to support her? Don't you want to support your wife? To have someone to look after your kids?Your incompatibility with the first girl sounds much deeper.
>>34399441I don't think either of them would be a good fit for you desu
>>34399455I grew up in pretty much an all-female household since I have 5 sisters, and I feel like I lowkey have some resentment for the females in my religious community because I dealt with so many double-standards growing up. My sisters were all incredibly lazy, wanted to drop out of high school, and never held paid jobs beyond the age of 21. Two of my older sisters never had kids after getting married and are “stay at home wives.” They think it’s the man’s duty to work so that they can leisure — that came out of their mouth. I don’t like the laziness and entitlement of “religious” girls and worry number 2 will be just like my sisters. As for number 1, she is perfectly aligned with me on my business plan — we are both accountants and would start a firm together. She’s really hardworking which I admire (she and I are always among the last to leave the office). She also wants to buy investment properties which I am actively looking into as well. She did express interest in kids also and I can see her being interested in converting to my denomination if I pushed for us to go to church
I don't think you really like either of them because you are asking us.
>>34399462I thought about this, but you cannot just be overly picky. Some compromises must be made if you want someone you find attractive
>>34399486Just because they like you doesn't mean you should date them though, you should have an interest and you're just comparing them like they're objects
>>34399479Are you using chatGPT
>>34399492I understand that. This is just how my mind works — I am not a very emotional or loving person and make decisions weighing positive vs negative. I don’t have any desire to marry out of need for a spouse — I just see it as a more stable living arrangement + better environment for kids
date the republican
>>34399479Sounds like you have a work wife and a home wife on your hands (I'm joking, unless...?)Look I get resenting women to some degree, I had the sister from hell so I know exactly where you're coming from.But you want a wife don't you? You have to learn to balance these things. You can know the nature of women and manage it while still loving your wife.Is hard working at work necessarily what you really want? What's life going to be like if no one manages your home? What's it going to be like if you spend all your time together at work and end up resenting eachother?But don't let me talk you into anything you don't want to do. These are just the things I would weigh.
>>34399479>females of your religious community think it’s the man’s duty to work so that they can leisure>pushing to converting #1 to your denominationYou're not very bright are you?
