Specifically a girl who also has a good job? Like, what is the worst possible outcome here? More context: we are coworkers, both have great jobs. I find her attractive, and she likes me and is the one who approached me. I know her dad is rich. Her mom died, and maternal grandparents are also rich, and in 30+ years, she's set to inherit a shit load of money. I don't want this for myself --- I just want my kids to not be poor. Best case scenario, I have a great lifelong partner. Worst case scenario, it's a divorce, but even then, I don't lose anything? Am I missing anything here?
>>34401622That sounds great!
>>34401622I have known a few people in that situation.It’s possible that everything will work out and be great. The worst thing that can happen is that you become dependent on her money and you basically become her slave. If she is dumb or immature, you will basically become her caretaker because she cannot take care of herself. You’ll have to go shopping for her, driver her wherever she wants, make sure that she doesn’t hurt herself doing something stupid, etc.Inheriting a lot of money quickly will also encourage your kids to become spoiled or entitled.The best way to make sure your kids are not poor is to raise them with the money you earned yourselves. You should consider the inheritance a safety net only and learn to get by with your incomes only. If you and your spouse are both reasonably intelligent, pleasant people and financially responsible, then you should have a great family and be happy.
>>34401635I have no interest in the money of her family --- I am perfectly fine by myself financially (we're both accountants). We spoke about starting our own accounting firm and buying properties, and she's exactly like me, highly ambitious and entrepreneurial --- this is exactly what I was looking for in a partner, someone who just isn't a romantic partner but also a business parter, two in one. She's also very into health, doesn't eat any sweats (just like me). Naturally petite. So she is unlikely to balloon into some fat beast. I agree on the spoiled part. I would raise my kids thinking they will inherit nothing because I've seen too many kids become lazy because they think they will inherit from their parents
>>34401622Would you want to marry her if her family was broke? If yes than marry her.
>>34401660Just based on where she is now? Absolutely -- she has a great job, skinny and feminine but also highly ambitious. She's naturally a hard-worker (we are always the two last people to leave the office). That's really how I got to know her as she started coming up to me as soon as the last other female coworker leaves.
>>34401650>>34401672It sounds like you don’t have anything to worry about, then. Good luck with your family.
>>34401650>I would raise my kids thinking they will inherit nothingraising them up with the goal of earning their place in the world is a good thing, but remember it's possible to go overboard on this. going too hard on the self reliance schtick can give them the idea that they'll be completely helpless if they fail, or that there's no room for such. don't forget to make it known that you'll be there for them if srhtf, my people failed at this.
>>34401650>I am perfectly fine by myself financially (we're both accountants).there's this thing called AI that's gonna put you on the street in a few years. You guys should find some new lines of work, quick.
>>34402627*within a few years. maybe one
>>34401622Yes, i am a male gold digger too. I wish i was in your situation.
>>34401622I'm 30 years means she is broke that entire time. Find someone who is rich right now.
>>34401660I would marry her if she if she can show she is someone that I can trust, is loyal, communicative, cares. It matters to me that she is a virgin and that I am her firsts
>>34401622>Am I missing anything here?When she divorces you, she can afford far better lawyers than you. You will end up penniless and with no access to your kids whatever.
>>34401622Oh, also, rich girls tend to have body counts in the hundreds by the time they're 21, and cheat frequently and effortlessly.
>>34401622>richWhat do you consider "rich"? My family considers me "rich" because I can afford to buy a new subcompact car every 10-15 years.>I don't want this for myselfGood because you won't get any. Inheritances aren't community property.
>>34403304Both sides of her family are multi-millionaires. She likely assumes the same about me (I came from a wealthy family but my family lost a lot after my dad died).Inheritance could also become community property if it's commingled with other marital assets, but I don't care about that. I would just want my kids to be financially secure
>>34403409>multi-millionairesSo 2 mil? That's just upper middle class though, nobody with 2 mil has live-in servants.
>>34403409>my kidsThey're her kids though, and you should never forget that. She just lets you believe you're the sperm donor.
