So I'm in an IOP program where I have a group therapist, psychiatrist, as well as an individual therapist; and the group therapist and psychiatrist are always punctual but the individual therapist is late literally ALL THE TIME. Like we've had 25 sessions together by this point and she's only been on time for 5 and late or straight up didn't show up for like 20. And I don't mean 5 minutes late or anything like that I mean like 30 to 45 minutes late. The sessions are in theory supposed to be like an hour long but they end up being like 30 minutes or less. And she always has some bullshit new excuse every time. Double-booked, air conditioner broke down and she lost track of time, plumbing situation with toilet and she lost track of time, pets had a lot of fleas and she lost track of time, her mother died and she was grieving, her nephew got run over by a car and she was grieving, her husband surprised her with a visit at a fancy restaurant and she forgot about our session, etc.And by the way she's not a young "girl" therapist either who's in her 20s she's at least 60 years old or more. And apparently not only a therapist but a psychologist and licensed in 49 states in the United States. She truly has no excuse. I even brought this up to her and she told me that she's truly deeply sorry but that life just gets in the way a lot of the time and there's nothing she can realistically do about it. Her apology felt almost sarcastic. And it's like I CAN'T FUCKING TAKE IT ANYMORE! I love the group therapist and psychiatrist but she's DRIVING ME CRAZY! I already have uncontrollable anxiety and here the bitch is not even trying to be on time or show up at all.Oh and I almost forgot to mention but this is an online IOP program where not all the therapists are licensed in my state so complaining to a higher-up to replace her is not as simple as it sounds.And honestly since this is an online program she has even LESS of an excuse to be late all the time.
>>34405884kinda seems like she doesn't give a shit about you. no way to know for sure but i wonder if she does this to all her patients or just you
>>34405907I imagine she likely only does it to OP because otherwise how the hell has she not been fired yet? Are they just really short staffed or some shit?
My recommendation for you would be to find a different program but if you really wanna keep the group therapist and psychiatrist then get an individual therapist somewhere else since your current one ain't doin' shit anyway. Just don't tell the people in the program you got an individual therapist somewhere else.
>>34405884Report her to the program. Document everything.
>>34405884Complain.To her first, and then to the head of the Program.
>>34405884This type of behavior for a therapist or heck any mental health professional in general is actually straight up despicable because when you're working with people with mental illnesses and emotional issues and the such what happens when one day a suicidal patient kills themselves while you're running super late because the anxiety from waiting is just way too much for them? That's definitely not a good look for you or the company you work for.
>>34406121>is actually straight up despicablei wouldn't go that far but it's definitely extremely disrespectful. opening up your heart to someone because your family and friends refuse to listen to you only for the therapist to not even take you seriously
>>34406138I'm not sure if this is better or worse than OP's therapist but I had a therapist who despite always being on time literally paid no attention to what I was saying and kept getting the details completely wrong. I could be talking about how I got fired from a certain job and he'd be like "wow you just got the job congratulations!" Or I could be talking about how I've had several suicide attempts in the past and he'd be like "wow you've only had exactly one suicide attempt you are much stronger than most people who attempt several times!" I'm genuinely not sure if that therapist is worse or OP's.
>>34406183now that we're all talking about our horrible therapist experiences a past therapist of mine was crazy to use any excuse to call the cops on me and send me to the mental hospitali didn't even wanna say i wanted to kill myself just that every once in a while life was a little much and i wish i was never born at all and then suddenly cops show up at my door in the middle of the night to take me to the mental hospital in handcuffsit wasn't just a one time thing either she did it like three or four times after that
>>34406204Jesus fucking Christ is that shit even legal?!?!
>>34406217if they have reason to believe you'll hurt yourself or someone else or a small child then yes it's legal. a therapist can even make shit up and get away with it if the police buy what they say
Okay after reading through this thread I'm not sure I ever want to try therapy. This thread is literally making me terrified of therapy.
>>34406268I mean to be fair people with negative experiences are more likely to report than people with positive experiences. In other words this thread is biased towards negative experiences.
>>34406297Why would anyone give a rip shit about "positive" therapy experiences. They are trained to just sit and listen to you yap.Their job description isn't to fix your life.
>>34405884>or straight up didn't show upIs she like, a really good therapist or something? Why would go ever go back to a therapist who doesn't show up to her own session?
>>34406520>They are trained to just sit and listen to you yap.While you're not wrong some therapists can't even do THAT right.Let's take the examples in this thread:>>34405884For this anon the therapist is constantly late. Any other job they'd be fired after day 2.>>34406183For this anon the therapist doesn't even listen period.>>34406204And for this anon the therapist is just looking to send people to the mental hospital because it's easier than actually helping the patients.So in other words they're not even doing the bare minimum.
>>34405884>And I don't mean 5 minutes late or anything like that I mean like 30 to 45 minutes late. The sessions are in theory supposed to be like an hour long but they end up being like 30 minutes or less.Okay wow that is absolutely not okay. Being 5 to 10 minutes late every once in a while (but not always obviously) is only human but 30 to 45 minutes ever single time is just straight up unacceptable
>>34405884Yeah bro at this point she's just playing games with you. If I were you I'd get really confrontational with all politeness and respect out the window. I don't mean violent or aggressive but just telling her straight up how this makes you feel and how you just can't take it anymore, swear words and all to get your point across. And if she tries to make up another bullshit excuse just tell her that by now you don't buy it because she makes up a new excuse every time and you can see through the bullshit.
Lol @ therapists
>>34408749Therapists are basically the result of lonely desperate people who have literally no one to talk to. No friends no family nothing
