Every woman I've ever been with has asked me to choke them, dominate them or slap them around during sex, and I just can't do it. I'm not into beating girls, it's an active turn-off for me. Do I ever have a hope of meeting a woman who is sexually normal, or are they all like this?
I had a dominant GF once. I was too immature to understand that she was something rare. I just thought of it like she was "challenging me". But yeah they do exist.
>>34409977They aren't all like this. Unfortunately you seem to be either attracted to the sort of women with this problem or you are encountering in an environment in which they concentrate. You may need to alter the procedure you follow to meet them.What are you doing presently?
>>34410038>Unfortunately you seem to be either attracted to the sort of women with this problem or you are encountering in an environmentWait a minute, you're applying majority of women don't like masculine traits.
>>34410051Wanting to beat women isn't a masculine trait
>>34410064The definition game...How is violence not a considered masculine and/or stems from. Is it neutral or feminine in your morale system
>>34410082Perhaps I misspoke, but what I mean by that is that "beating your spouse" is not a prerequisite for a man to be masculine. I will agree that strength and power to kill/inflict violence are masculine traits, but a man need not necessarily perform said actions to be masculine, as long as he's "capable" of doing them. Stoic warrior vs low inhibition criminal, basically.
>>34410082He is just trying to virtue signal
>>34410051What is the "masculine trait" you're talking about here?
>>34410038>Unfortunately you seem to be either attracted to the sort of women with this problemIf anything I feel like it's the opposite. I'm attracted to shy, nerdy type girls but as soon as we get in the bedroom they act like total degenerates. It's just depressing.>What are you doing presently?I don't use dating apps, I just met girls from school, uni, work, or friends-of-friends but it always turns out this way.>>34409986I don't want a dominant woman, just a normal woman. I'm into passionate, loving sex. Not beating each other or calling your partner nasty words.
>>34410180>I'm into passionate, loving sex. Not beating each other or calling your partner nasty words.Unfortunately, most women like that, so she'll find herself a 'Master' if you don't do it
>>34410183That's just depressing. I have absolutely no interest in being rough with women or insulting them during sex.Is it really not possible to find a good, sweet girl without weird fetishes in this day and age?
>>34409977This universe is a sick joke. I want to do all that to women, but the only one that i have interactions with is some boring vanilla christian girl.
>>34410180>shy nerdy girlsThere is your problem. The kinky ones are the shy ones. There is something about that personality type where try to act as shy upstanding well behaved girls in public and then behind closed doors they turn into a freak. The psychology behind it is that they actively repress even hinting at any of their true desires in public. There is also a possiblity that they think that sort of sex is what all men want because of porn so they emulate that. Have you tried to stay with anyone after telling them that is not what you're looking for? Or are you or her initiating a break-up immediately after for being incomparable? (Either you thinking she is disgusting for wanting this or her thinking you're weak for not giving it to her like that?)Oh, and before anyone thinks I'm just making shit up. There are studies about this. Conservative, religious, public opinion anti-porn states actually watch the most porn. This has to do with how they don't allow themselves casual sex. Utah the Mormon state is among the highest for watching porn.
>>34410219>Have you tried to stay with anyone after telling them that is not what you're looking for?The girls I actually dated, yeah. My first GF didn't work out for unrelated reasons. Second GF I broke up with after she started talking about wanting to try out an MMF threesome, which was a dealbreaker for me.
>>34410180>nerdy type girls but as soon as we get in the bedroom they act like total degeneratesWe may need to find women who aren't shy or nerdy. Perhaps outgoing, boisterous women will be less deviant? Worth a shot. Alter your target.>dating apps, I just met girls from school, uni, work, or friends-of-friends Come to think of it, when I was your age the women I hooked up with were much wilder than the ones I met post-graduation. It could be an age thing? Maybe they'll grow out of it?
>>34409977Most women don't enjoy this. They ask you to do it because they think you want it, not because they like it themselves.
>>34409977>>34410292>64.6% of women fantasized about being sexually dominated, while another survey indicated that "Femdom" takes only 33.5% of the total female populationWhen it comes to fetishization I'd argue there is a skew, but it always helps to truly understand your partner emotionally before engaging in sexual actions.Id say:When it comes to fetishes in women, I'd make it clear that bodily harm or injury is not a healthy fetish to have and can lead to permanent injury down the road. Outline your boundaries clearly and learn to compromise in small ways. As an example roleplay vs action. You can easily play the part of a domineering figure with power (such as a father figure, police officer or other authority figure your other might choose) without physical violence. In the case where physical action is desired, drastically soften your approach. As an example: choking vs massaging a neck. One directly cuts off an airway and can permanently damage the brain, while the other is a relaxing method to physically remove stress. Just like fuzzy handcuffs if you can de-burr an arousing situation it makes it far less harmful.
>>34410312>femdom 33%there is no fucking way this is true unless there is something at play where older married women become doms but were subs in their early 20s or something
>>34410312"Being dominated" doesn't mean being strangled.
>>34410461yes it fucking does. what are you gonna theoretically dominate her? baka
>>34410219>Utah the Mormon state is among the highest for watching pornIs it really though?
>>34410509The chad who types "teen" into porn site vs the virgin who types "college" into porn site
>>34409977>Do I ever have a hope of meeting a woman who is sexually normal, or are they all like this?what do you think, retard?
>>34410446PMID: 25359122 DOI: 10.1111/jsm.12734An Internet survey was conducted with adults who ranked 55 different Sexual Fantasies. That was the result.>>34410461Agreed, it can mean a lot of things that can be positive rather than harmful. I'm just giving a counterpoint to OP's problem, which was:>Every woman I've ever been with has asked me to choke them
Im in the same situation as OP. How is it possible that its such a trend now? Or do girls just talk more open about it in this age without any shame? I am more traditional in that sense, and will see such girl as damaged, but it some sense it feels like I am a failure of a man for having to force myself to do it, while it looks like that most of guys enjoy that stuff too. It even made my relationship with sex itself weird. First after I broke with my last such gf, I couldnt watch porn anymore, it felt disgusting, and now I am even losing sex drive in general. Still Im not losing hope that one day I will find sume girl I can make passionate love with, and I know it will feel good again
>>34409977I have been in this situation so often i just got addicted to slapping them.Though I definetly relate to you. The first few times i had to check to mak sure they didnt cry or got scared after getting a medium tight and playful slap, it shook me the first time i hit another human being as well. You just have to get used to it.
>>34410768>>34410776I just feel heartbroken knowing that the vast majority of women seem to be like this.It's completely shattered my view of love and romance in general desu.
>>34409986I had a dominant gf once and I hated it. That was a short relationship. I liked her as a person but I did not enjoy the sex at all.
Half this thread is 1-2 people trying to explain basic real life concepts to dumb kids who watch too much porn.>>34410776>You just have to get used to it.You don't. If she's fucked up and ended up thinking that this shit is what she's supposed to like or has to do and you know it's messed up and you don't want to do it, then say no and don't do it. Be the actual fucking dominant one. She can sub to it or fuck off.
>>34410038>environmentLike what?
>>34409977Same. I'm one of the few men that's into slow seduction and she just wants me to beat and rape her like a hobo. I thought I was in high demand...
