Because of character limits I posted this on pastebin: pastebin com srGfuVQrSummary of this story:(1/2)At the end of 2022, I moved to a new city for my master’s degree and became part of a small study/friend group. I developed strong feelings for one girl in the group. She was often especially warm and attentive with me, which made me think there might be something there.At the same time, there was another guy in the group who also seemed close to her. One day, after I had tried to get closer to her by suggesting we study together, she quietly told me, smiling, “By the way, that guy likes me a lot.” After that, I kept seeing the two of them together constantly. She also seemed warmer toward me when he was not around, but more distant when he was.Later, his cousin, who was also in our group and someone I trusted, suddenly told me during exam period, while looking directly at me, “By the way, she sleeps over at his place.” Not long after that, I went to a small party at the guy’s place. At one point, he stood directly behind her with his arms wrapped around her and they were dancing closely right in front of me. Later that night they left the club together. Because of all this, I concluded they were together and backed off.
(2/2)After I left the city for my thesis, I still thought about her a lot. Months later, I heard from others that she had apparently missed me and had been waiting for me. That confused me, so I called the cousin and carefully asked when exactly she and the other guy had gotten together. He told me it happened during our last exam period.After graduation I went through a depressive phase because several things in my life changed at once. During that time, I wrote her a long emotional message telling her I had strong feelings for her. She replied that she was committed to him. After that, I blocked her. Later I found that she had blocked me too. I also contacted the other guy, but he did not reply and then blocked me as well.Two months later, I found out that they apparently had never actually been together. That made me feel completely betrayed and confused. The cousin, who I had trusted, seems to have lied to me directly in that phone call and now avoids contact.What hurts most is not only losing her, but the feeling that my emotions were handled carelessly and that I was misled by people I thought were friends. I still feel deeply humiliated by the cousin and the other guy, and I do not want them in my life again. I do not feel the same way about the rest of the group. Sometimes it felt like this guy looked at her like a proxy to show me who the boss is in their friends group and I 'just can't have' this girl without fighting for her. I don't understand any of this.Is it understandable that I want nothing to do with those two people anymore? And how do I let go of the hurt, confusion, and humiliation from this whole situation in a healthy way?
>>34412617>I posted this on pastebin>10,751 characters
>>34412617You liked a girlYou did nothing about itAnother guy liked herHe did something about itWhat is your complaint with him?
>>34413222Saying that the other guy didn't actually do anything about it. It was all a lie by her It's a larp meant to send a message that does not mean anything when given here and not directly
>>34413222KYS
>>34412617Dude, that women is playing with your feelings, while she was fucking him all over his house you were jerking off in your room. Time to move on. The sooner you move on, the better. If you don't do it, you will never find happiness. What's in the past has passed and the future is in your hands.
>>34413258That is an assumption. A form of demoralization. I know in my case I believe she is still pure and keeps her promises to me. That includes all of her firsts. This is the last I'll comment on this bullshit LARP. I trust her more than anyone else here
>>34413305WTF are you talking about schizo
>>34413258>Two months later, I found out that they apparently had never actually been togetherLearn to read. The guy and her were not together and all that other shit didn't happen
>>34413309Paint however you want, that's the only reason you're doing this. But know that I'm not falling for it and she should be smart enough not to either
>>34413313I think you're braindead, I'm not OP, you fucking nigger.
>>34413312>Learn to read. The guy and her were not together and all that other shit didn't happenYou need to read, your peanut sized brain can't comprehend a simple text. The part of the story in which she was hugging the other guy and giving him attention was seen by OP, not by the other girl>>34412617>Not long after that, I WENT to a small party at the guy’s place. At one point, he stood directly behind her with his arms wrapped around her and they were dancing closely right in front of meSee? HE went to the party.
>>34413337That was prior in the story, could have been a completely different person, who knows. But later in the story it states that it never happened so that is what you go by. What the latest thing is that tells the truth. He went on to say that people were lying. So that negates everything prior.
>>34412617>>34412621>Is it understandable that I want nothing to do with those two people anymore?Of course dude, I wouldn't want to see their faces ever again if it were me.I just don't understand the reason why they'd to that? Why would the three of them lie about it?Maybe there has been some sort of miscommunication or something, but it is all very weird.In any case OP, I know you had and might still have feelings for her. Truly, I understand that well, but it might be the case that she was not as nice as you might think...For your own sake, I really recommend you move on. For better or worse, it's in the past now. Attempting to keep in contact and feeding your hopes will only make things worse.I know these words of recommendation may not have an effect, but I do mean it sincerely. Just take is as an unfortunate lesson in life, and try to move on. It happens.
>>34413447>he doesn't mean what he actually means
>>34413498Your logic makes no sense, you're retarded. The guy clearly said he witnessed that. You can make a fool of yourself all you want, you're still wrong.
>>34413510What're you talking about? What guy?
OP here. Interesting that people are impersonating me. First of all, this is not a LARP. If someone believes it is, then just treat it as a fictional story and go with it. I don’t care.> > 34413222 I didn’t really make a move on her, and that’s definitely on me. It makes me look beta in this story. I won’t refute that. I wanted to take things slow when approaching her, that’s why I suggested that short study session (two other people from the same friend group were there as well, but I didn’t know that when I took the initiative and went with her to the study room).But like I said, the very next day she came to me and whispered that this guy liked her very much, which then led to her kind of avoiding me in the weeks and months that followed.> > 34413305 This guy is LARPing as me. Funny guy, he can stay in the thread.> > 34413337 She never hugged him with intimacy, The Guy hugged her the way I described. Or do you mean her hugging me during our farewell?> > 34413498 Thank you.It’s nice to read the replies. It feels supportive to know that I’m not completly wrong to have this attitude about my situation.
>>34413258 They were never in any kind of relationship. It was probably more like a big brother and little sister dynamic. But yes, she was playing with me, just like both of her friends were. I believe that, to some degree, this is part of the phase where two potential partners get to know each other, exploring each other’s boundaries. She just took it too far for my own good.The real issue I have is that both of these guys also played with my feelings.As a side note, this cousin I talked about, when he personally introduced himself to me while we were on a walk together, the very first thing he told me was how he sends a lot of money to his young cousins because it makes him happy to support his poor family there, where they don’t have much of their own. When he told me this, he had this sparkle in his eyes. Like I said, this was the very first personal thing he shared with me. I believe that this, in fact, says a lot about him.
I fucked up the formatting, so just copy-pasting my previous reply.>>34413222 I didn’t really make a move on her, and that’s definitely on me. It makes me look beta in this story. I won’t refute that. I wanted to take things slow when approaching her, that’s why I suggested that short study session (two other people from the same friend group were there as well, but I didn’t know that when I took the initiative and went with her to the study room).But like I said, the very next day she came to me and whispered that this guy liked her very much, which then led to her kind of avoiding me in the weeks and months that followed.>>34413305 This guy is LARPing as me. Funny guy, he can stay in the thread.>>34413337 She never hugged him with intimacy, The Guy hugged her the way I described. Or do you mean her hugging me during our farewell?>>34413498 Thank you.
>>34413573>Interesting that people are impersonating meAh thank God, I thought some of the replies were strange. Must be someone in a similar situation that, for some reason, decided to lash out at others, or the dude is just an idiot.Np OP. Like I said, I know it is tough man. I really mean it when I say it is better to just move away from these things, these kind of people. You did nothing wrong... matter of fact, you may have dodged a damn big bullet there, considering how things turned out.Best wishes to you man. I've lived through a similar situation, myself.
>>34413582No he said >In my caseWhich means in response to your larp this is the truth.
