>23yo shut-in with extreme social anxiety>mom or dad: ”We’re seeing our relatives this weekend”>Immediately start getting stressed and wonder how this will turn outWhy am I like this? I hate this shit and can’t get rid of it. It happens with anyone besides my parents. Why did I fail so badly?
I know this is not what you want to hear, but this will help you out with your depression so much you wouldn't believe it.With all of those thoughts going on in your head. I want you to mentally be like, "Okay boomer, I'm a failure, but that doesn't stop me." and then constantly say, "nothing is gonna stop me from being my best." do that quietly while on your bed.
>>34413676I tried it and it didn’t work.
>>34413786Good now go do a workout.
>>34413642You need exposure therapy. Maybe try going out in public and make a fool of yourself. Just think of everyone else as NPC’s that you will never see again (which isn’t entirely incorrect)
Honestly? Fuck these people, you don't have any obligation towards anyone and nobody should take your peace. That's how I feel about all that. I don't see a lot of family members for years, and I couldn't care less. Just because they have your blood doesn't mean a thing, if you're not comfortable around them, you're just not, and that goes for anyone you're not comfortable with.
>>34413642Okay so I was in your shoes for a long time. Here's why you are like this: you don't have enough interactions with strangers on a day to day basis like your ancestors did. We evolved in an environment where we were forced to talk to members of our tribe on a daily basis or die. That changed with the internet.Here's the cure: you force yourself to go outside and talk to people over and over until it stops hurting. It's going to suck ass. You will do a lot of crying in the bathroom. It might take years. But in the end you'll be better off. Think of it as a spirit quest.
>>34414859> It might take years.This is why it’s too late.
>>34415080Oh yeah sure. Too late now, but don't you think it is better to a 40 year old woman: "oh look anon is so handsome going on that hiking trail, I hope he ends up somewhere great!" or: "WHAT THE FUCK A LOW-LIFE?!"
>>34415179It’s already too late to change and it will take years.
>>34414859On the contrary the way the world has developed is that my tribe members despise each other, wish each others down fall and will actively mock you, are of no help economically or to create networks, but you are expected to maintain this toxic relationship because my tribe is oversocialised. I’ve seen the rich refer to each others kids and nephews for jobs and such, look from actual advise for each other. This however in my tribe is seen as a burden. So I have consciously and unconsciously given up on the system. I genuinely don’t care other than for caring my stereotypical boomer parents and ocd ridden brother.
didn't u post this already?
