He's jealous of my looks, told me several times he wished he had some muscle on him but he's just an insecure lanklet and the only worth he sees in himself is his height, nearly every female coworker sees him as awkward and weird. Most of the time he jokes in a way where he tries to see how much he can get away with and honestly he pisses me off. He tries to belittle me in front of others but not dropping some literal shaming just trying to make me look funny in a moment and I either play it off as a joke (and later realize I wasn't really laughing along but for the sake of normoid community I have to play it off somehow) or straight up ignore him (although leaving no reaction makes you look weak). He's not my friend and he acts like he is one, just drains my energy when it really isn't necessary. What do I say to him? I don't care how he perceives me.
>>34416160>I don't care how he perceives meThe whole thread is about you caring about his disrespect so thats not true. You would have publicly called him out a long time ago if this is true. Just prove you're the more dominant man and call him out next time since you care.
>>34416169Let me clarify; just call him out. He bothers you and you aren't his friend and you clearly don't like him. You have nothing to lose doing so.
>>34416183I suppose I give too much of a shit to not make it weird but honestly there is no way of not making it weird. Today he asked me why didn't I check in earlier (like it's any of his business) so I said "why do you care" and he went away smiling.I really don't understand this guy.
>>34416227He's trying to assert his dominance. Your response is passive aggressive. You need to be more direct. If a gangly little nerd can talk down to you, anyone can. That's how he gains power over you.
>>34416160>>34416338This. Tell him his breath is rancid. Take him down a notch
>>34416338>>34416346what if I completely ignore him. and why does shit like this has to happen in the first place holy shit I just want to keep to myself
>>34416356This is a good thought BUT let me tell you a story.So I work in the OR and the scrub techs use to give me a hard time when I was new. I ignored them and thought to myself I look like the bigger man. This did nothing. Their attacks would ramp up. Eventually I got over it and started firing back and viscously at times too. Why not? They're being mean to you. Shoot it back at them. We like to think everyone is cordial but unfortunately people will be bullies if you let them. Once I started firing back, they stopped. Years of annoying passive aggressive comments melted away seemingly over night.No one will see you ignoring this nerd making fun of you and go "wow he's such a stoic." They'll look at you and go "wow what a pussy." Its uncomfortable being aggressive but trust me you'll feel way better about yourself and the situation when you tell him to fuck off. Better if you actually dominate him at something and you can rub that in his face to remind him of his place.Tl;dr fight back
>>34416393I'll admit that I'm literally afraid of fighting back like this. The way I see it is:>You let them just talk and be stoic (like you said) and you're enabling them to keep on doing this shit and everyone sees you as a pussy>You make a comment back and you look like you're causing a scene and making some people go "see I told you he's fucked up"my best bet would be taking him aside and straight up telling him to stop saying shit like this because I'm not his friend but I guarantee you that this shit would only get worse.It feels like such a lose/lose situation but at this point I hardly ever talk to anyone anymore. It's not that he isolated me from others, he would not have any impact on that. I just see that people are straight up pieces of shit not worth interacting with.I'm just curious, what did you say that made them fade? One time I told him he looks like a sheep due to his shitass zoomer haircut and he got stunned for a second. I sometimes comment back on him but honestly I'M TOO FUCKING TIRED to deal with this shit. If there was a button I could press that would make him permanently fuck off from me then I'd press it immediately. This shit was too harsh on me in elementary school as I was the main target always for no fucking reason at all.
>>34416405You're right, but unfortunately you let yourself get put into this situation so you may as well go out with some honor metaphorically speaking.I'm not sure if pulling him aside would work. Maybe it will, I haven't had to do that before. It couldn't hurt. But the problem is him humiliating you. I feel like it should be a situation where you get to save face because yes I know you say you don't care but trust me you actually do care and no one likes feeling humiliated, even if its around people you don't care about.Honestly it was little things. They pointed out every single tiny mistake I was doing so eventually I started doing it back. One time I remember one of the techs telling me how to do something but it was being told to me in a condescending way (and it was wrong) so I said, "look at you trying to tell me how to do my job like you know what you're talking about. Let me deal with my stuff, okay?"And they were just quiet. One time I just said, "look I'm not in the mood for this shit so give me a break." Ill ask "what are you even trying to do right now?" When they get sassy. Or even "you're making my job harder." I once had this tech come up to me at a company party and he said, "hey man sorry I'm so mean to you in the OR I just get stressed" and I said "yea fuck you too" and laughed in his face because I didnt buy his apology for a second. Luckily its really died down since I started defending myself so now most of my attacks (so to speak) is mostly friendly banter.
>>34416436Yea come to think of it I guess him approaching me counted as pulling to the side. Since I did that tho he was quiet and didnt really talk to me at all which is fine and im sure thats what you're looking for too.
>>34416436>>34416448Truth be told, whatever you said to him is possibly the best thing you could say. Will tell him next time I'm not up for his shit and make him apologize followed by "fuck you"
>>34416160You were never my friend c. I want nothing to do with you. All you do is copy things I have said. You are a husk. Go away. -m
>>34416160>picrelDude won at life
>>34416696Whoever "c" is, get it off your chest bro.
I know and see through this, your larp is ignored
then I hope you approach your victim IRL, cause a scene and make a fool of yourself
