I started a new job recently, working in a hangar. Most of the guys there seem alright but the only people I talk with are the two guys I'm working with directly. I feel fucking anxious and awkward around everyone else.If someone talks to me first I start to feel comfortable around them and gradually am able to talk with them but very few people do, here.It's because I have low self-esteem, and I think people see how anxious and awkward I am and think I'm pathetic or weird and won't like me.Aside from that I just don't know how to chat with the guys like everyone else does. Both I'm too anxious and I don't know what to say. So I just smile like an idiot because I don't know what else to do and hope someone will say something to me (they don't).Also, this is in general but happens a lot in my job: I'm a bit sick of this happening>Nod/smile at someone in acknowledgement when I'm walking past them, or>Say "thank you" for something small like letting me pass>They don't respond or stare at me like I'm an idiotWhy does this keep happening? My automatic reaction to it is to think they don't like me when that happens
>>34418673Best way to socialize is ask questions. Let them talk and you listen. Ask about their kids, high school job, whatever the fuck is semi relevant. If you watch any porn stop that too. Fries your brain.
>>34418673>It's because I have low self-esteem, and I think people see how anxious and awkward I am and think I'm pathetic or weird and won't like me.I can relate I've had the same issue. Just work on getting comfortable at your job and after a month or 2 you will realize there is nothing to be anxious about, its just work. Work on your npc small talk it can get you far and dont be afraid to make eye contact when talking. Say hi to ur coworkers and if they ask how you are say "good, yourself?". Also work on your self esteem, its hard as fuck to improve it but hating yourself makes you so disadvantaged in life. Reading a lot and working out has helped improved mine. For anxiety just dont think lol, do what the monk says in this video whenever you are being anxious about dumb shit even if its just for a minute. https://youtu.be/haWd-1Ia3d0?si=aSMjbCTEbuEsUf_K
>>34418760>>34418738I'm actually somewhat okay with small talk given I'm actually talking to someone in the first place, I think the challenge of this environment is that there's not a lot of small talk that goes in, it's more like guys joking around with each other, making comments etc and I just don't have the confidence to join inBut yes just saying hi would be a really good start and I've been too scared to do that. I guess making small talk outside those situations too like on break or walking to the car is a good way to feel more comfortable with people tooI wonder why people don't say anything to me but I guess it's because I don't say anything and either that makes them unsure about me or they think I dont want to talk>Also work on your self esteem, its hard as fuck to improve it but hating yourself makes you so disadvantaged in life. Reading a lot and working out has helped improved mine. For anxiety just dont think lol,Too true I absolutely need to work on that. Well I have but it's no easy road
