my boyfriend is annoying sometimes..last year we fought really badly and since then i am unable to open up to him about things. when i did open up to him before the fight somehow my rants became something which i get lectured on. I remember the time when i said i felt like kms before (it was before we were in a relationship) and all he said was that was such a weak mentality. even tho i know it was before but i still did not wanted to hear this.. another time we had this exam and i got good grades than him while he failed in some subjects and i was motivating him while he was feeling shitty about how he isnt moving on in life and saying things like he has knowledge (he is street smart) but he cant use them here. so he said you are intelligent (which i am not) you don't know what i am talking about.. so i said i am not bcs what am i using this knowledge for. in the end it's all about getting grades which i don't think is good. and then after saying this we fought bcs he said rich rants or smth like that..so things like these piled up and it made me hesitant to share things with him.. after the big fight last year he said he'd change this thing about him where he'd listen and not try to find solution but a part of me still isn't able to share things with him.and sometimes when we do fight i think to myself that this isn't gonna work. Now i also can't imagine myself being with him in the future. this is my first time getting into a relationship and i still don't know what it means to love someone. i don't think i love him i am so confused
>>34419148If you don't see a future together, you should tell him so and break up. In the immediate future, next time you feel like sharing something with him, do it even though you are afraid and then, if he reacts in a shitty way, tell him exactly how his reaction makes you feel ("I feel reluctant to share things with you when you respond that way")
>>34419148You can't get everything from someone. If you're completely sure that you would prefer an empathetic softer guy instead of this street smart one, do what you need to do.
>>344191481) why do women write so incoherent posts? Is this because they only use a phone and don't know a PC?2) it sounds like you're making a big deal out of nothing and your relationship sounds like you're children3) stop being emotionally demanding of him and get it together yourself, you're supposed to support him4) You're stronger than you seem, recognise it
>>34419148He sounds insufferable. Break up and find someone better.
Fighting with you too often is a red flag. There are women known for being bitches and getting into fights with every guy until she finds the right guy and they hardly argue. Ik. life isn't fair, no one's equal to one another.>>34420434Ignore what this guy says. He's a waste of time with adv that's going to make relationships worse.>you're supposed to support himHis therapist's job. If you're coddling a man it doesn't benefit the man either.>You're stronger than you seem, recognise itEveryone is as strong as they are. Knowing what you can and can't do will work out better than trying to girlboss out of impossible situations.
>>34420434To be fair she said she was dumb in the OP
>>34419148You sound like the typical modern women: started maturing at 11 and stopped at 12. Get over yourself. Truth hurts. If you can't handle it and self reflect on it then you should have KYS'd instead of just using that info as a conversation starter.You just want affirmation and validation which is okay sometimes but overall is goo goo gaga baby bullshit. Your feelings aren't valid and you need to accept reality on its terms instead of delusionally hoping reality will bend to your whim because you're the main character (you aren't).How do you stop feeling a certain way? Self reflection, self criticizing, self improvement. Stop being fat, start gaining actual confidence not this disgusting "i am woman hear me roar" offputting facade. Stop starting arguments about petty bullshit. If you cannot handle it, break up and ride the cock train until you're a blown out mid 30s roastie and you settle down with a beta male that will make you feel embarrassed to be around for the rest of your life.
>>34419190> and then, if he reacts in a shitty way, tell him exactly how his reaction makes you feel ("I feel reluctant to share things with you when you respond that way")>tfw foids need to be told this shit
>>34421554It truly shows how lost the modern woman is when the most useful advice is "you should be honest and transparent with your partner."It's honestly pathetic.
Nice blog, now show tits or get the fuck out.
>>34420626>Supporting my partner? OMG what am I his mom???ick!!!You complain that men only want you for sex and then make sex the only thing you can offer to men.
>>34419148You said it yourself. You don't love him. So either break up or get guilt tripped into staying.
