okay anons i need your advicei've grown too attached to someone who makes me happy, but the problem is that my happiness comes exclusively from the attentions they give me when i reach out to them. the moment i feel that i've done something wrong i completely black out and think that they don't really want me around and are just keeping me to feel better about themselves because i make them feel special, it's destroying me because i wish i could talk about it with them but it feels terrible to say "i wish you'd talk to me more, or take initiative and be more direct sometimes", they don't really owe me anything and i dont want them to be responsible for me since at the end of the day we're just friendsmy life is miserable, i have no job and my friends are all surface-level acquaintances, every day im waiting for something to happen without trying to make it happen because im ultimately too depressed and insecure to believe that a failure like me could do something goodhow do i get out of this loop of self hatred? is there something that i could do to fix myself?
>>34419187Is this about a girl you have a crush on?
>>34419187That's not what happiness is. Anything that you think of as happiness that depends on a specific set of circumstances isn't happiness at all, it's misery that's merely waiting to be revealed the moment that those circumstances change. If you want to get out of this loop, you need to begin building a secure foundation of self-reliance. Find happiness within yourself, and then you'll be able to spread that cheer to others rather than depend on others for cheer.
>>34419187Find happiness within yourself. Get some hobbies that you think you'll enjoy.I know what it's like to be in your situation anon with no friends at 19M.Start working out >>>/fit/ Start gaining knowledge >>>/his/Loner/Outcast.I remember being desperate for connection at one point when I really should have been working on myself.As for the one-sided relationship ,you'll only drive yourself crazy obsessing with this person's response, trust me you will save a lot of time. Unless you know this person is going through a hard time themselves(since you didn't specify gender) there's no excuses for this one sided dynamic. Try bringing up your concerns & if they're willing to change, otherwise STOP REACHING OUT.
>>34421383Fwd. You aren't alone>>>34419891
