I am 90% certain she's interested in me as she keeps coming up to my desk just to small talk and specifically waits for all the other workers to leave so that we can have more intimate discussions. She told me she's single also and asked me if I had instagram, but I don't. I don't know what the next step here should be. I feel a little too timid to just ask her out or ask for her number. I need a more discreet way to escalate as this is a business professional environment. Any ideas?
Start vascillating between ignoring her and teasing her, she'll start giving you back rubs and shit, at that point just drag her in the unisex bathroom and fill tank
>>34422783>asked me if I had instagram, but I don'tShe could see this as a sign of disinterest. Like you're lying to her because you're not interested. I had plenty of girls ask me for my Instagram and I don't have one, they all lose interest. I'm not the type to go chasing after them afterwards, and I'm usually very cold, so this leads to a lot of interactions that lead to nowhere. This could happen to you, since you're very timid. Ask for her number.
>>34422788>Start vascillating between ignoring her and teasing her, she'll start giving you back rubs and shit, at that point just drag her in the unisex bathroom and fill tankYou could this too, but... I don't think it will work, specially since you're timid.
>>34422783How old are both of you?
>>34422836>How old are both of you?I'm 40, and she is 24 years younger
>>34422831I told her that I used to be on social media but thought it's a waste of time and deleted my accounts (which is true). She kept coming up to me after that, many times. >>34422836 I'm 27 and she's 26. It was my birthday last month, and she came up to me, spent like 5 mins asking me what I'll be doing for my b-day, giving me recommendations for restaurants. She followed up after to see where I went... I'm very sure she's interested in me and probably looking for something more serious, based on our ages
>>34422783>specifically waits for all the other workers to leave so that we can have more intimate discussions.Ask her if she wants to go for a drink rather than chatting at your desk.>I feel a little too timid to just ask her outThen you're dead in the water. Women are not attracted to timid men. Either overcome that, or give up.
>>34422859>>34422833I maybe used the incorrect word with timid. I am not shy --- more so introverted, feel meh about small talk, and usually keep to myself. I guess I am a little timid when it comes to dating since I haven't gone on a date in years and feel like dating a coworker is a little dangerous. If things go south, you still see that person every day.
>>34422783>>34422855you need to make a move to get closer to her, get the oportunity of her suggesting places to make her go with you. If you don't do anything, she will just think you're not interested in her.
>>34422873So, I kept telling her I want to explore the restaurants ride outside our workplace. I see some of my other coworkers go out together during lunch break --- would this be a fair play to say hey how about we go explore the other restaurants? I feel like it's also somewhat low risk because it's not an official date
>>34422831>She could see this as a sign of disinterest. Like you're lying to her because you're not interested. I had plenty of girls ask me for my Instagram and I don't have one, they all lose interestWhy? why is having an instagram account so important to these women?
>>34422892go for it, get to know her more and become more confortable with her, eventually both of you can escalate to a more intimate date.
>>34422911Attention is like oxygen to them.
>>34422992yeah but what does it matters to them if you don't have one? because you can't follow her and like her posts?
>>34422911its the equivalent of having a phone for zoomettes, if you say you have none they shortcircuit, theyre literally only prepared for 2 options: yes, here it is / no, sorry - including a third option all of a sudden just stresses them more in an already stressful situation
>>34423029Partly, and partly they are concerned about the lack of instagram the same way you'd be concerned if you found out they weren't breathing. Life without attention is simply inconceivable.
Ask her out. Tf
>>34422911>Why? why is having an instagram account so important to these women?IiRC, its so that women can confirm that you're a normalfag instead of some weirdo creepy incel serial killer.
>>34422783Create an insta account. Add her. Escalate in whatever way possible.
>>34422783morning: "Hey, I was thinking of trying that new sandwich shop down the street for lunch. Wanna test it with me?"afternoon: "Lousy day, right? Wanna get a drink after work to help recover?"
>>34424510I'm gonna do it, anon. Maybe not this week but sometime this month. I am about absolutely certain she will say yes, but I hope I somehow don't screw things up by saying something awkward if we do go out
>>34424587or maybe next month. or 2028.
>>34424604Why the rush? What’s wrong with finding a good time
i dont thunk it will work, its a bait if you try anythink youll get fired happend to me my boss is a fucker i hate him for doing that shit and ima end him desu, DONT FALL FOR IT
