First time buyer, my fiance and I (early to mid 30S) purchased a home. At first, we thought it was a good deal but even our first impressions of it were lackluster. But the location was good, safe and decent transport connections.We move in proper today, after we cleaned it, got rid of mould and I am on the brink: I FUCKING HATE IT! Nothing works, its not big enough, its clearly been neglected, its structured badly and I HATE IT SO FUCKING MUCH I HATE IT!Its too late to pull out now and ive mentioned a 2 year plan to sell up and try purchase another home. My fiance, in contrast, who came from genuine poverty, is being optimistic abd is turning it into a proper hpme within ber ability. But i feel so unhappy, I wanted a more furnished, better house but this is not what I imagined.How do I deal with this?
>>34424353They are mostly all like that.
>>34424391What do you mean?
>>34424353Buyer's Remorse is so common as to be almost automatic. Give it a month and 90% of your objections will fade and the other 10% prove dealable with
>>34424353>this is not what I imagined.What you imagined is probably either unreasonable, or not remotely within your current budget.You need to take a more practical perspective on what kind of house you have and how much of it can be improved or corrected over time.I think your biggest problem right now was expectations of home ownership as opposed to the practical realities of it. I had some buyer's remorse in the first 5 months of owner my first home, but it was more just my obsessiveness and feelings of being overwhelmed by both the responsibility of it, and how long my laundry list of things I wanted to fix or improve seemed daunting.It took a while for it to sink in that none of the things I had listed out for improvement or fixing were actually vital or even time sensitive to address, and I could just do them in whatever order or whatever timescale I wanted because it was MY HOUSE. And over time some of them would get easier and less daunting as I acquire new skills and collect more relevant tools for each task.That house eventually got a full renovation of the kitchen in the apartment above the detached garage (did 90% of it myself). It got french drains in the backyard, I repainted the kitchen cabinets, I rewired half of the garage, I installed a ductless AC unit in the garage apartment, we refloored the entire upstairs, I stripped and painted the previously carpeted stairs. I renovated the workshop in the backyard, replaced the laundry outlet box, remodeled the half bath ourselves, demoed the master bathroom then had contractors renovate it with a new shower, clawfoot tub, and vanity. Then an addition went in that connected the detached garage and house with an in-law en-suite and second garage. Then we moved the hot water heater, added a water softener and filter, then put in a new wood pellet stove and a back patio.No house is ever "perfect".
>>34424504seconded
>>34428700cont'dThe other thing to consider is that no house is ever going to be your "forever" home either. The longer you are in a house, the more your equity accumulates up to the point of having paid the mortgage off completely). Improvements and maintenance are now a form of savings account that you can either recoup later when you sell it, or if the need presents itself convert back into a temporary source of funds via a HELOC.If later you decide that what you need to house to provide for you isn't feasible or affordable when compared to selling this house and buying a different one, that's where the utility of the equity comes into play. It provides you with the money you will need to afford the down payment on a different house that provides what you need at a later time.You are currently in the anti-honeymoon stage of homeownership. I went through it when I bought my first house, but my wife didn't. My wife went through it when we bought our second house, but I didn't. You just comes to terms with it eventually and start prioritizing what actually NEEDS to be fixed as opposed to just things you think you want. And what gets done and when is just a matter of time, opportunity, and affordability..
>>34428739>what you need the house to provide for youtyping too fast
>>34424353>How do I deal with this?As long as the house is livable you should do it like your partner, being optimistic and try to improve it.
>>34424353what the other dudes said but also>rent chads stay winning
>>34424353where do you live? what kind of house is it (home, condo, apartment)? Why didnt you buy a new build if you wanted it to be perfect?
>>34424353All homes are like this anon. You need to stop being a massive beta male and start learning how to fix your house through youtube videos. Most stuff you can do yourself. Plumbing and electrical work hire someone and watch them work, try to take notes and that way in the future hopefully you never have to call them. I personally make enough money to never have to stress hiring someone if I have to, but I prefer to do it myself. Doing stuff like flooring, landscaping, and handy work I do it myself because I enjoy it and take pride in it. The first thing you should do is paint the house if you haven't already. A fresh coat of paint does wonders. Second is furnish your house using furniture from Salvation Army or whatever second hand place you can find. You can find some proper built to last wood cabinets and stone tables. New furniture to me is a waste unless it's a bed which I prefer (don't want bed bugs)
>>34428792That's it. You may as well make the most of what you have now, and you can change homes in 2 years time if that's what it comes to. But in those 2 years you will have also learned what you really didn't like about this house, and what you did, etc.Like that "good location" might be more important than you realise, especially when you hear a work mate complaining about how much it sucks for them to drive to work from their fancy house, or how many mozzies it gets, etc.Like this guy I worked with years ago, same age/job/etc as me, and we both bought a house the same year (~15 years ago). He spent a bit more and got a bit bigger/nicer house, but then he was "locked in" financially to the point where he couldn't even afford to get a ceiling fan installed in his bedroom and would come in to work complaining about how little sleep he got coz of the heat. Meanwhile I decided that the ceiling I had wasn't enough on its own, so went and got an aircon installed in my bedroom too.
I got a home 15 years ago and had to do a lot to improve it myself >Redid the wiring so it doesn't blow a fuse all the time >Install a breaker box>Fix the steam heater >Install a new hot water boiler >Change the stove to a gas stove >Kind of finish the basement, still working on it>Fix a hole on the side of my chimneyGet ready to make it your own or go back to renting
