How old is your boyfriend and what other medications are he on? If he is on antidepressants he needs to stop them immediately. They aren't even helping and they just make him perform worse. If he isn't on those then he needs to quit porn. It's not a joke or an option. He has a real life woman in front of him and his porn addiction is making it so he can't satisfy you. If you approach it like this and say that you are worried about him and just want him to be able to come inside you, he will stop. If he doesn't stop, it means that he doesn't really love you. He loves porn more. Speak your mind. You let his penis inside your vagina so let him hear inside your mind.

>>34430760
Are you tight?

Its from jerking off, I know because the dame happened to me. If he doesnt do it for a week or 2 he should be much better. If that doesnt work get him a chastity cage.

>>34430760
L-Lisa, that you!?

>shall be it

>>34430760
he has fetishes he wont try on you thats why he does it. Maybe he loves you or holds you to a hgher standard. I knew a guy who treated his girl like an angel and woundn't try anything that he would try hypothetically on a prostitute. Looks to me like the same case.
If you want him to get better, just straight up ask him about his fetishes and consider being open to them.

>>34430760
>I am not ready to get on birth control
Why not?

>>34430760
Difficulty in maintaining an erection during sex is a fairly common problem with numerous potential causes.
Let's try and narrow down the culprit before you resort to rawdogging it.

First off, when does he lose his erection? Was it while he stopped to put his condom on? Did he have one in the first place?

>>34430760
a couple of possibilities. Firstly, the physical problems

condoms reduce stimulation. This is rarely the sole issue, but it will exacerbate other problems.

most people only have sex in the evening, often within a couple of hours after dinner. If dinner is big, then blood supply prioritises digestion and makes it harder to maintain erections. Sex in the morning is always the easiest, morning boners for example. If your bf doesn't get morning boners, there is a big problem with circulation.

for good circulation, he shouldn't be fat, and he should have acceptable cardio health.

check stress levels. High cortisol, low testosterone are big problems.

ED is more likely psychological, especially if he can masturbate. A big one is porn, even moderate use is damaging, and bad erection quality takes several months of avoiding it to fix, or longer depending on how stimulating the stuff is that he watches. Absolutely start with this, it's the most important thing.

another issue is performance anxiety, condoms can be a subconcious signal that makes him nervous without realising. Especially since there's a downtime barrier while he's putting it on. You could help him get more used to condoms by doing things other than penetrative sex while using them. Try a few sessions where the two of you just practice putting the condom on, and doing stuff like blowjobs and handjobs. Try to associate condoms with sexual stimulation without performance.

Lastly, consider cialis instead of viagra. Side effects are significantly more mild, and there's a longer half life which makes it easier to use. Also a supplement you can use is l-citrulline, it's a main ingredient in most preworkouts for its vasodilation

Sorry for not answering, like you how you have to actually be hard to penetrate in the first place that is the hurdle even if he gets semi hard before while he has a condom on. He isn't on any medication. Claims masturbating isn't an issue so idk. He claims it isn't a wanting me sexually issue since he gets hard when we spend time together. Idk if I am tight lol.
Like we could kinda have sex without Viagra once when I was ontop and he was kinda hard (I don't remember if he got fully hard during sex) but when I asked to switch positions cause the man's knees kinda block me from being comfortable when ontop, he couldn't get hard enough to penetrate and gave up without ejaculating

>>34430760
Stop fornicating.

Seconding the two most likely options:
1. he probably jerks off too much. A man that has this problem should quit masturbating and watching porn entirely, at least until the issue is resolved. Going a month with zero stimulation makes me immensely more sensitive and I get way harder. Spend a month where sex is just him getting you off with oral and fingering and by the end he'll probably barely be able to resist penetrating you.
2. he might have fetishes that he isn't sharing with you out of embarrassment. This isn't intrinsically an excuse; even if he has fetishes he should learn to make himself sensitive enough to enjoy vanilla sex with you, for your sake. But once this issue is resolved through step 1 if you want to really short out his brain you could try to find out if this is the case. First ask him if he has any, telling him he doesn't have to say what they are. That makes him more likely to admit to it. Then when he's comfortable maybe you can pry and see what he wants you to do for him. Be prepared for the possibility that it's something strange and unusual like wearing clothes in the shower, blowing up balloons, pretending to be a giant and stepping on him, vacuuming the floor, etc. and hopefully you can learn to understand the psychology and history of his relationship with the fetish and indulge him in it to whatever extent you're comfortable. He could also just have regular porn kinks that you can explore although those shouldn't be nearly as difficult for him to reduce his dependence on compared to the examples I listed earlier, which are fetishes that stem from prepubescent psychological experiences and traumas

>>34434000
Oh and this is usually advice I give to guys learning to get off their girl but it works for guys too: if your partner can orgasm though masturbation, there is *always* some point at which they can edge themselves and then let you take over, even if it means literally holding your hand and applying the force themselves, or doing part of it themselves (e.g. guy fingers her as she rubs her own clit, or guy jerking himself off with his hand over hers). Once you can do that, it's just a matter of gradually handing over control earlier and earlier until you're able to just get each other off all on your own. Same goes for orgasm from penetration, with an undersensitive guy (and I assume the same goes for women) as you get closer to orgasm there's a point where everything suddenly gets more sensitive and you get way harder, at which point almost any stimulation will bring you to orgasm. The more desensitized you are, the closer this point is to orgasm itself (requiring death grip masturbation to get into the zone) but if you take a month off touching your dick you get to that point almost immediately and have to fight to not cum from even mild stimulation. For me (currently single, serial masturbator), a week of abstinence takes me from not even getting fully hard until just before orgasm, to getting very hard from even mild simulation, and a month takes me to crazy places like getting off to the thought of kissing a girl or not being able to put on a condom without a risk of accidentally cumming

>>34434000
>>34434431
not op but what causes PE? it is physiology or psychological thing?

>>34434540
It depends, I've heard it can come from training yourself to cum quickly by masturbating to completion really fast so that you learn to cum before getting fully hard but honestly I've only ever had the opposite problem from jerking off to much. Unless there's some identifiable malfunction of your dick I would just call it "pussy too hot syndrome" and you just need to practice edging or just let her get you off and then go for round 2 (where you'll last longer) after your refractory period is up

Its not erectile dysfunction. Its unnatural to fuck a plastic bag and frankly the guys that can enjoy it and cum are the ones with the problem. I bet they are premature ejaculators without the condom. Your boyfriend is anormal guy, get some birth control or trust him to pull out plus keep plan b on hand.