I'm trying to figure out how to either uninvite a friend from a get-together or keep him from telling the rest of our friend group about it. Mainly that group is just going to make it too many people, and I'm finding out some of the people already coming don't particularly like the rest of the group.1. Tell him the get-together is canceled and hope he doesn't find out I still had people over2. Tell him not to tell anyone else and it's just a small thing3. Just suck it up, let everyone come if they want and hope they don't4. Other excuseOpen for anything. Any ideas?
friendship politics is so fucking gay#3 and maybe your friend group won't be so bloated and complicated afterwarda good way to shake the brokies out of your group is to let them know the get together is a pregame for something expensive later
>>34431744the best option out of those 4 still depends on other factorsu gotta use your judgment in these situationsi would probably say option 2 is best, assuming the people already coming don't dislike this guyif they DO dislike him idkoption 1 is probably a bad idea if you see this guy regularly & all the friend groups interact regularly>>34431757>#3 and maybe your friend group won't be so bloated and complicated afterwardi dunno, best option depends like i said>a good way to shake the brokies out of your group is to let them know the get together is a pregame for something expensive laterinteresting
>>34431757It's two different groups with very little overlap. Occasionally they might see each other, and honestly I have more beef with the rest of group #2, but trying to not be dramatic about it. There's one specific guy that group #1 and myself are just tired of hanging out with.>a good way to shake the brokies out of your group is to let them know the get together is a pregame for something expensive laterDefinitely can't make this lie work since I'm possibly the most broke.>>34431760Thanks. They don't dislike this guy and he's also kinda part of group #1, but not close enough he'd be likely to find out I had people over. It's his best friend we don't particularly like, and honestly i'm just a little irritated with a fair amount of group #2.
are you a libra
>>34431876is that short for librarian
>>34431788>Thanks. They don't dislike this guy and he's also kinda part of group #1, but not close enough he'd be likely to find out I had people over.he'd probably hear it eventually, whether in a few days or a month or hwateverit can be unpredictable, that's why i dislike option 1people remember lies/betrayal even if it's slight & it can cause tensionit's often better to just exclude people outright if it's a small thing, they'll forget about it in a short time>It's his best friend we don't particularly like, and honestly i'm just a little irritated with a fair amount of group #2.fairbut yeah i'd pick option 2 personallyyou can focus on making the guy feel included, rather than on "don't bring ur friends", but also make sure he doesn't bring his friends xd
also, this way if the guy has a good time, and the people from group #2 feel excluded, the guy u invited will probably do the pacifying for you
