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I'm FTM. I started going to therapy and dressing like a guy ten months ago. In two more months, my therapist says he'll start my prescription for testosterone if I don't raise any red flags between now and then.

I've been worrying though about people not accepting me. I get that I probably will have some trouble 100% passing as a guy since I'm a little short and my voice isnt deep, but the tester one might help with the former and should definitely help with the latter.

I've been wondering how likely it is people will treat me like a guy if I go through with everything. Will people respect that I'm trying to be butch if I make that clear? Would I have better luck as an enby?
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>>34432839
once you have facial hair people will think you are a guy. FTM passing is easy.
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male acceptance doesn't work the way you seem to believe it will.

If youre transitioning, it seems like a loosing prospect to be ultra concerned about passing or not, or being accepted or not. It would seem to an outside that such a thing would only be undertaken because your own internal calibration requires it.

If you worry about people accepting you now, that won't change with transitioning.
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>>34432839
>g how likely it is people will treat me like a guy if I go through with everything
That depends on what you think that looks like.
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>>34432841
How can I be sure that any facial hair will show up in the right places?
>>34432846
I'm just afraid of people still seeing me as a woman after all the effort to transition. I worry sometimes that despite feeling like a guy inside, I just internalized so much of my feminine upbringing unintentionally that people will always see me that way.

Like the me, the real me on the inside, has been stained and ruined by the person I've had to pretend to be.
>>34433010
I feel that I'm not given genuine consideration when asking for people's attention, that while they hear my words people just kind of skim through them and only pick up on words that catch their interest.
At work I try to report issues I've found in our projects, metaphorical stumbling blocks that will lead to a lot of trouble later if not dealt with...and nobody listens to me about them. Then I get stuck dealing with the fallout when the problem I predicted happens.
My gender presentation is because of how I feel on the inside and I want my outside to reflect that. But I hope that, while transitioning to being a guy, I'll *also* get more respect.
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>>34432839
You were brainwashed and are mentally ill
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>>34432839
You can probably pass as a guy, a pretty feminine guy but still a guy, you will be accepted as a guy, and as a guy most people will let you fend for yourself, if you have any hardship people will ignore you, if you get overwhelmed, though luck you gata deal with it your self. There will be some people that will try to help you, but don't expect for the world to bend over backwards for you. Just watch about Nora Vincent, she was dressing up as a man for around a year and it fucked her up. Don't think that I'm just mean in order to hurt you, but guys have a ton of hardships that woman never have to face, same as woman have hardships that man will never have to face.
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>>34432839
You won't find acceptance. Most people will recognize you as a woman instantly, and even the people who do mistake you for a man will not accept you because to be accepted as a man is to not be accepted. Society doesn't accept men, it tolerates them. They get no special treatment and no special respect. They're disposably useful at bets and worthless
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>>34433267
This
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>>34433046
>feeling like a guy inside
You don't feel like a guy inside though. You have absolutely no idea what it's like to be a guy, you have only your fantasy about what it's like.
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>>34433046
In that case I recommend you pull back immediately and don't permanently fuck up your body with hormones. As other anons have said, you're living in a fantasy where man=respect when this is very much not the case, mostly because you have a major mental blindspot here.
You're not going to be the jacked guy, you're not going to be the CEO, the type that you probably consider as a "man" through your mental filter, ignoring all other men. You're going to be the short invisible goblin that goes to work and then goes home and does nothing else, every single day, with no family and no friends. Men are only given respect when they have accomplishments, we aren't naturally respected or valued by others. And in order to get those accomplishments or have others connect with you instead of ignoring you, you need to be active and have to try and fail again and again and again and again. No one will help you stand up and dust yourself off, and in fact will probably derive pleasure from seeing you fail. You were raised and socialized as a woman, so I doubt you have the mental fortitude to go through with this. This isn't a knock on you, but most women are very passive, which is how you end up in a dead end job with no family or friends at 50 if you're a man. The situations you described in your post still happen to men, and actually worse if other men don't resepct you.
It's also worth noting that because you're a woman, you aren't going to look like a man that commands respect, ever. You're shorter than men, you take on fat more easily, you're weaker, have different bone structure, can't grow facial hair, etc. I want you to imagine a short, fat guy with manboobs, a young boyish face, and a high pitched voice. He also can't grow a beard to hide his weak chin and has no muscle. That's what you're setting yourself up for. You're not going to be the 6'5" Instagram fitness influencer that has men and women swooning over him.
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>>34433411
>Brainwashed into thinking that liking "man's things" makes you a man
For fucks sake. You're not a man and you never will, liking "man's things" doesn't make you a man.

>>34433267
This right here. You will be in for a rude awakening, and probably end up killing yourself like many other troons, just stop. Don't take hormones or do anything that can't be reversed, you will hate yourself forever if you do it. Just be a nice tomboy
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>>34432839
imagine asking this question anywhere else but /tttt/ and expecting anything that isn't
>YOU ARE NOT A MAN YOU HAVE BEEN GROOMED INTO MENTAL ILLNESS
retard with no foresight to anticipate the obvious
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>>34433510
Misquote? You're agreeing with what I said.



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