>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.htmlhttps://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating(new suggestions with working links are welcome)REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.Prev: >>34413489
What happens if I just cold approach anyone starting with>Hey, do you have a boyfriend? >Yes- Bye!>No - Sorry for the intrustion, I thought you look cute, I'm anon, I would like to hang out with you some time.If they comment something, I'd keep the ball rolling. If they don't, I'd text them and get ignored. Is this a good approach?As a matter of fact, I have nothing in common with nobody, so I have nothing to make conversation of. I have shit observation skills. I only have humor if I feel good and I feel bad almost all the time. I get embarrassed of people talking about me so lingering would work against me. Women almost always have a boyfriend at all times so I'm getting rejected anyway. The spaces I go to (university, japanese classes) are all men, and invading women spaces like dance is creepy and they would look down on me, they're also expensive and don't contribute to my career.So, I can't play the game. Is this fine?
i dont have any confidence due to my lack of human experiences (not necessarily with women)Can i somehow get chicks if i lean into my complete lack of manhood? should I start sykkuno-maxxing, i have a similar energy to him.
>>34432920You can play the game. You just have to learn about yourself. Find peace being alone first before interacting with people. After that is done, learn to be patient when things don't go your way. I know a lot of people are gonna call me delusional for this, and it is a bit, but remember in RPG games dialogue options have a chance of success if you pass or fail? That is reality with communication, even with me now I don't know if what I said passed to where you thought I made sense or failed to where you pressumed I was some deranged lunatic on the internet like most people would think of me. Communication is always chance, anon. You should never beat yourself over chance. If you don't beat yourself up for when you get a scratch ticket at a gas station and all the areas you scratched off left you empty-handed you shouldn't do the same for communication, even if it is life or death. Animals have to hunt to survive everyday and they don't worry about chance so neither should you. Still hoping for that roll where you thought I made sense.
You're too much of an awkward pussy who can't handle tension or conflict to ever be charismatic around women
I yawn at catposting troons
I regret downloading hinge. You guys were right, attractive women don’t need dating apps. Time to learn how to approach irl
>>34432991Yeah well, life moves on and I wonder if I get the same with the next woman. You aren't God so you can't say every woman thinks the same about me. Even then I'd rather be human than right.
GUYS. I'm sorry. Please ignore my last post. You're actually totally going to make it. Let me give you a breakdown of why:>your emotional reactivity in conversation is HOT - you MUST always say "just kidding haha" any time you say anything that isn't a statement or question of fact in case she gets the wrong idea. Ambiguity and tension = PUSSY DRY!!!!!!>you beating around the bush about asking for her number makes her SQUIRT>the fact that you take everything she says super seriously and spend 5 minutes ironing out the logistical details of every little idea she pukes out at you is simply spine-tingling for her>letting the conditioning induced by your BPD single mom oversocialized nightmare childhood lead you to compulsively assure her and take on a very feminine lilting tone of voice and generally converse like her gay BFF is PRIMING her to get FUCKED HARD by YOU!!!In short, just keep doing what you're doing king. Especially >>34433001. If this is the sort of thing that runs through your head, you're literally 5 minutes from PUSSYTOWN YOU-ESS-AYE!
>>34432920Instant rejection unless you're Brad Pitt. A cold approach requires at least some conversation prior to popping the question. If you can't bring yourself to make five minutes of small talk, you're going to crash and burn on a first date anyway.
I already made a thread about it here >>34411405, but tell me if there was even a small opening or something.>customer comes to pick up two books she ordered in late February>she's missing a missing a book, so I tell her that I can get the company to print out a second book>she leaves her number for us to call her when it's ready>she comes to pick up the second book>she smiles and waves when she sees me>she apologies because she thought she sounded rude when I called her to tell her it's ready because she was at work>I let her know that it's fine and I understand >she calls about 20 minutes later because her book wasn't printed properly>I hear her out, let her know that it can be redone again or she can get a refund, but if there's another mistake, then we'll just proceed with the reimbursement>she says she appreciates the fact that I'm trying to rectify the problem and asked me for my schedule because she wants to take a look at the order with me>two week later I left her a message telling that she can pick up her books>she shows up two days later>same wave and smile, and says "remember me" >I gave her her books(the production center printed 2 of each just in case)>she opens it in front of me >we chat for a bit about how odd the situation was>she tells me to take one of the books>I took one of the ones she didn't like >we wave goodbye and she says happy EasterShe was kind throughout the whole situation, but it probably doesn't mean much. I was told that if a woman is being kind instead of businesslike, then there's a chance that she may have been attracted to you. I somewhat doubt that because many women have complained about men mistaking their kindness for flirting. I want to hear what some of you have to say about this. I thought about being more casual, but I just didn't want to weird her out or get in trouble.
>>34432955Thinking of success rates like that all the time has contributed to feeling pressured and have my mind go blank all these years. I think what you say works for most, but trust that I'm an outlier as you can't imagine. Imagine that I'm a feral child who was taught to study and nothing more. Can't make a better metaphor, you get the savage fear, social cluelessness and domestication through threats.
>>34433007I have no idea what you're talking about. What you say feels like a back-handed compliment. Why not go with the flow? Not everything has to be about status anon. I believe this is why people like you keep calling me a faggot, because it is embarassingly low status and you want high status like a king right? How about you be your own king instead of fitting everyone's definition of it. I am my own king, so I don't give a fuck if I show up to a party and people think I look like a faggot or some shit like that. Calling me pussy, you are a pussy because you're too worried about looking like a pussy. People who aren't pussies just go with the flow not give a shit about looking like a pussy. What are you 14 in a house party of teenagers?
>>34433018You have to take a risk anon. Take risks not if it looks right to your family or friends or the world, but for you. I know the fear of fucking up bothers you. However, as long as you have purpose in what you say or do, there is nothing to worry about.
>>34433008I definitely can't small talk. That's not me. What now then? I go to the therapist and he doesn't teach me to small talk, he tells me to "be myself" and "expose".
>>34433059You know what, focus on getting rid of your fear of taking risks not saying the right thing that catches people's attention.
>>34433059You have to be willing to be humiliated anon. Instead of looking at this humiliation as leading to a god awful consequence, look at yourself as a survivor for putting yourself out there and going through it.
>>34433009Meh, too friendly, I don't think so personally.
Just landed my first real relationship, and with an absolute stunner to boot. I have advice for people with Autism and/or Anxiety, especially if you're a student: Go to extracurricular clubs. Not just any clubs tho: Ones that represent your special interests. All that time obsessing over your hobbies will turn you into one of the biggest experts there, and as long as you're not domineering, that knowledge is sexy. Admittedly I'm also 6ft 3 and am told I have a good face so I realize I have some privilege, though I am slightly overweight. I do think as long as you present yourself well tho it should be no issue. I struggled a lot with the transactional nature of online dating and ghosting, and I don't think that's uncommon.Just know that if you're insecure about your mental conditions, it's not insurmountable. The hardest part really is asking her/him/them out. Godspeed, people.
>>34434365What if your special interests are all solitary?
This is going to seem a bit weird but I don't want to start a new thread. There's a girl who hates me at work, she eventually became a manager and moved to another store, her best friend started working with me, and at first was acting very weird and was obviously nervous, she acted as if she knew who I was before I even introduced myself, which was highly evident with how social and open she was with everyone else except for me, so clearly the girl who hates me told her friend all about me. Anyways, every now and then her friend will steal glances at me, laugh at my jokes, join in on conversations, but when it comes to just us two? She'll just stay quiet and act distant. One day in particular I was reading in front of the grill and she came up to put a bag on the clothesline, and once she hung up the bag, she turned to look at me and stared for 3 seconds and then walked away, her face was neutral and her body language indicated she was shy. Does she like me? Does she want me to talk to her first? Is she shit testing me? Is she fishing for a reaction so she can tell her friend about me? Help me socially awkward autists.
None of the 18 year olds in my town are white… I think the white genocide thing is real. And I’m only attracted to white women..
>>34432869I find it so annoying how feminists exploit lonely men. I don't even buy le red pill or whatever but when I see them trying to "fix" incels it's super fucking obvious they're just trying to suppress an ideology that goes against theirs. If these men tomorrow were just as or even lonelier but had their ways of organizing support groups cut off, these feminists wouldn't give a fuck. Because it isn't about actually helping young men, it's shutting them up so you can keep being a stronk independant womeeen.You can even tell because these women will be against porn, but not against OnlyFans exploitation or anti-men posts on the internet or communities built around leeching off of men. And then they'll claim they're oppressed by the magical patriarchy that somehow doesn't benefit men at all.
>>34434852Society benefits females in every way and males are blamed. But white males specifically are the scapegoat and the face for all men, even though statistically there’s more rape, murder, pedophilia from other races. Being a white male in 2026 is demoralizing, best you can hope for is a decent paying job to pay for distractions.
Boys I am just losing my fucking mind because I can't do what I want to do >be me >relatively poor>just want to go out drinking and meeting girls at bars>incapable of doing this sober>got a DUI before so I can't drive myself to the bar or I will actually have to go jail for a second DUI>it costs like 60 dollars to UBER from my house to the bars and back>a hotel room close to the bars costs even more>i rode my bike to the bars once and it took me forever to stop being sweaty and then I puked when I was riding my bike home drunk and it was terrible>I have a few friends who I could get rides from but they have busy lives and relying on them for this probably won't last long>I also could drive myself, keep a detailed record of how many drinks I have had on my phone and try calculating when I am good to drive home. Go out for 4 hours and drink 4 beers or whatever. But that will give me a lot of anxiety on that drive home I REALLY don't want to get another DUII think the solution is to make friends with fags at the bar and get some regular drinking buddies who wouldn't have a problem ferrying me but easier said than done. I actually have a lot harder time making male friends than picking up girls because I have such a reversion to coming across as a faggot to other guys or something.
Im recently single after 1.5 years of going through a toxic relationship that I should've ended long agoI dont feel like getting on the apps this time around. Im approaching mid-30s, and live in a populated city. Are my best best bars and social groups?
