The only thing I've ever wanted in life was to be liked as a person and for be wanted by someone. but time again for whatever reason nobody likes me. They basically just abandon me. It makes me not want to live
*braps menacingly*Go on...
>focused on being liked rather than being likeable many such casesif you're so dumb that you can't analyse and fix your social behaviour: get really good at something, and people will come to you
>>34433962Do you pretend to be someone else when interacting with people?
The more desperate you are for an outcome the more it will elude you. Note that having a goal is different from desperation about it. That's just how it works for some reason
>>34433962Are you likeable? Do you treat people decently? Do you have a good vision for your life that you're pursuing?Also dont let others treat you badly, obviously. Its better to be alone than to be abused.
>>34434296this doesn't work. Most people are shit at everything
>>34433962>The only thing I've ever wanted in life was to be likedThat's not an adequate ambition. To be liked, you have to be a real person, and a real person has ambitions beyond popularity - either accomplishments, money, or paerson achievments. It is the people who are strong and clearly defined in themselves who attract others
>>34434450Becoming a fake person is an adaptation from a bad family and/or society. Becoming real involves a lot of soul searching and pursuing external goals is not the main point, but rather what creates fakeness in favor of that pursuit. The most likely way to become real is trauma work.
