I don't think I need to tell you why it's pornography is extremely harmful for your wellbeing. I know this very well, and yet I feel stumped in my attempts to stop. I've read/listened to Easypeasy countless times and I have gone short periods without it. But it keeps dragging me back in.So I guess the problem isn't stopping porn, but instead staying away from it, for good. I'm a man so my libido and sex drive is going to be high, I'm constantly thinking about women and I fail at attempts to block them out. I believe it's zapping my energy as I also feel tired after coming home from work and demotivated to do anything productive. Can any former Gooners help a brother out?
>>34437045im not sure but I want to praise you for realizing that it might be affecting your life. I think that there might be certain things that just pull the trigger of wanting to, hang on in there brother!!
>>34437045Just have real sex instead
>>34437045Channel desire into hobbies. Your brain is also searching for quick dopamine. You need to give it sources that take time to earn. Stay away from quick, easy gratification. Try to focus on real women and real relationships (not camgirls, pornstars, or vtubers). Good luck.
>>34437045Former gooner here and now also boomer brained since I'm setting into my middle age and I hung up my gooner coat. I hate to admit it, but it turns out the actual boomers and our forefathers were correct. "idle hands; Devil's workshop." They were right the entire time, OP. Whether you want to take that literally or figuratively, that's not my business. The point is true though. As men we need something to do with our hands at all times, it's just in us. If we're not stroking our beard, we're playing a video game with our hands on a controller, or we've a can of beer in our hand or it's a cigarette or it's a tool to work, a pen to write, a book to read, a weapon to kill, whatever. Men just really love having something in their hands, it goes back to our primal days of making tools and traps and weapons. When a man doesn't have any reason and nothing to do, just himself and either job, or no family to raise, or both. He will require something to do with his hands. And you know where that leads to lol.To beat porn for good you need to get busy, very busy. Not just with work, that's one major pillar of a man's lot in life. That's the relationship to money. You got other areas, other pillars. Relationship to Animal, Relationship to Nature, Relationship to greater society, Relationship to women, Relationship to your own children if you choose to have them, and yeah, even a relationship to God if it would please you. The more pillars that have yet to be erected (pun intended) the more likely the man touches his own PP.
>>34437045Honestly, being a man whore helped me so much quit porn. I just got on dating apps and went after real sex. I normally wouldn't of done that, but I was desperate to rid myself of my porn addiction and go back to being a normal man who can be turned on by real women. Fucked like a new woman once a month. Now I don't even think about porn
>>34437045Porn is bad for you only if you this it's bad for you. I sometimes feel bad for christians. Sin is a restriction you put on yourself.
>>34437445You stopped looking at porn. You've become the porn! In just fucking with you. Hope everything is good with you homie
>>34437450>Sin is a restriction you put on yourself.You're absolutely correct. That's why Christians don't like sin either lmao.
>>34437450It's not about religion, dumbass. Porn is really fucking bad for your brain. Not masturbation. Porn. There's plenty of studies on this. Porn will destroy your perception of sex. Leave you dependent on it to get turned on normally. It's so harmful. Even if you're not actually smart enough to acknowledge it.
>>34437045What saved me anon was I was ashamed of gooning and I was 21 and in university. So I started going to the campus gym even though I was embarrased and I was a twig. When I went there my friends celebrated me being there and it encouraged me to continue. I realized tiring out my body felt great and I didn't need to goon that day. This later on made me realize that my hobbies are really elemental to counter-goon. I started to hold the horniness inside to move it into fitness, playing guitar or drawing. I of course gooned here and there but that is to relieve your tension when you're too horny. Eventually you kind of make a new neural connection and your brain stops craving it so much. The stronger the urge is the more in the beginning of the journey you are. You don't have to stop cold turkey but start using your imagination when you goon.
>>34437497Masturbation is a waste of potential. It's a different problem from porn, and the reason why porn addiction is devastating is because it uses masturbation as the hook. Don't be coy and pretend people just twiddle their thumbs looking at porn, you know exactly what people do when looking at porn, they masturbate. Masturbation wastes a man's potential, and then the porn rots the mind by covering that potential. And I'm not talking about the potential to have sex or procreate, even getting shit done for yourself. See for yourself, the next time you want to do something like a task or a chore or something productive, when you feel the urge to jerk off, abstain for a moment and use that energy instead to finish a task. You will notice you are more able to start it and more likely to see it through. When a man jerks off, he more or less throws potential down the toilet. That urge to jerk off is an energy if used correctly.
>>34437516>I started to hold the horniness inside to move it into fitness, playing guitar or drawing.>>34437497You see? That anon figured it out too. He channeled the energy into other things that were not masturbation. He was able to transmute that energy into guitar, gym, drawing etc
>>34437045Don't try and quit masturbating, just cum to something that isn't porn - your imagination, say.
>>34437582>>34437575>ContBut it needs to be said to anyone in the struggle: If you have stopped porn and lessened it to only masturbation, good. It means you are on the right track, you are on the road to self-actualization and you are on your way to a better tomorrow. Keep going lads and remember we all screw up and there will be days of regression, don't panic it's part of the process too boys. The shame does not belong to the man who tried and failed, it belongs to those who do not try at all.
>>34437045>Implying the humiliation ritual masquerading as modern dating is any betterCase in point: Retards like >>34437441
>>34437575But as soon as it's a real cunt all that logic goes right out the window and you're back to the plantation (but now it's honorable!)KYS
>>34437762It's only a humiliation ritual if you keep pursuing vapid cunts or you have low self esteem. Ask yourself, honestly, what about you would even merit humiliation? I doubt you're someone who needs humiliated you're probably a decent guy IRL.>>34437772Nah because sex satisfies, masturbation does not. It's not about being honorable or any moralfags shit it's about the basic fact that you don't get the same hormonal pay-offs, you get the same variety but not the same intensity. Someone who jerks off will require more jerking to scratch the itch, someone who has sex won't need to have sex anywhere close to jerking numbers to scratch the itch.
>>34437575I masturbated today and then did Mauy Thai. Felt great. No porn, just raw thoughts. But you're divulging from the point. Porn is bad. Period. You can think masturbation is bad, that's fine. But porn is bad, and factually worse than masturbation. Porn has fucked a lot of people's minds/brains up. >>34437582Cool? Idc. IDC about masturbation. Porn is fucking bad. Why are you guys arguing this. Porn is really fucking bad for your mind/brain.
>>34437114Second this, My dad got me a compound bow for my birthday and for the first week I was shooting it so much I noticed I wasnt gooning as much
>>34437045You are what you thinkThink enough about women you'll become a woman
>>34437441This is well put.
I think that coomers and gooners spawn from the same issue. Perpetual bitchlessness. My friends who are more well adjusted than I all had girlfriends in their teenage years etc and throughout adult hood. I am 32 now and never had a girlfriend and I feel mentally unwell as whole. I truly believe having these experiences when young builds something in your mind that allows you to be normal. Porn and goonering is basically just a way to gain some of that normality even though it is probably ill gotten and causes you to spiral negatively.
>>34442162It's not so simple. If you met me in my mid twenties you'd have seen the biggest gooner you ever met in your life. I got laid at 16, I had frequent sex in a series of committed relationships. A man can be a gooner whether he's virgin or not, successful with women or not. What's going on with gooners is simple if we are just honest about it:Women and their bodies are beautiful, sexual, enticing, thrilling. We know this, we can it deny it. Women are hot with a capital H. And when we look at them, it's dopamine. We get fired up inside, that's just a fact. That's why in boxing sports they used ringside girls dressed in bikinis to announce the rounds. It's to get the fighting men fired up, it's dopamine. And when people are stressed or depressed they reach for dopamine, every time to self medicate their woes or anxieties. And guess what any man can look up online within seconds to do just that l? Porn and titties and asses and thigh gaps and cameltoes and nipples and pussies and sex sex sex. Dopamine dopamine dopamine. That's what's going on fren
