(1/2)Hello guys and gals of 4chan,I just received a "heeey" text from my ex after 1 year and 6 months of us last talking. The background is she moved to <redacted country 1> and I moved back home. We were both students and dated in <redacted country 2>. We were crazy in love, and I gave her a ring after 4 weeks of dating. It's one of those things where we both just knew it was a done deal, and also so we could at least get the tax benefits of being a couple.Background:Well, why did we break up? Well, she doesn't know this and will never know it. My dad and I were ready to close a deal on buying a company, and that failed since an investor backed out at the last minute; he held a substantial amount of the final total. We tried replacing him over the next 3 months, but it did not work. This put me in a horrible depression, and I pretty much just stopped talking to anyone and turned bitter for a while. Also, there was a massive loss of reputation for absolutely no reason at all, and it wasn't even my fault the investor was a retard*.So naturally, I accidentally cut communication with her. She got a corporate job at the exact time the above episode began. I didn't want to distract her with my sadness, so one day I just stopped replying altogether.What does she want?Closure, or does she want to continue? If she wants to continue, should I? I lost a pretty significant chunk of my money and won't be able to travel to her location for now.
2/2What should I do? Do I text her and apologize? What if she asks me? I don't want to tell her about this, and she is a great person, crazy smart and attracted way too many guys for her good*** however she is very eccentric(cant even explain completely****) so I don't want to ruin her life again; she has a pretty stable job and big dreams. I am the creative kind with an asshole attitude and a violent head for most people and don't hold back if I see people being lazy around me.**Since then, a new group offered 3 times the amount (yet to close the deal), and that retard was desperately pleading for the same deal from last time so he can buy and flip the company. I swear to god there are so many fuckass people out there, fucking hell.*** She was an hobby actress in <redacted country 1> and received at least 2 texts a week from guys inviting her for a drink or to a game out of nowhere.**** Incredibly jealous of any girls who approached me. GODDAM. For example, there was this other girl who was kind of interested in me but we were just friends, she saw it and threw my phone out the window and started texting that girl from my phone that "I am thinking of her". way too many other incidents. Well to be honest I probably made her this crazy due to bla bla bla i can go on... But advise please.
>>34442179Yea. Why not text her back?
>>34442191time difference is massive - 11 hours. Posted on 4chan after getting anxious the entire day today. 5 hours to go before she wakes up + whatever time she decides to text back.
Firstly, you sound like a massive pussy that piggy backs off other people and you lack the assertiveness to be a real man. You don't "accidently" cut communication you are romantically invested in. You chose not to but by framing it this way you're pushing the responsibility off yourself and onto an "oopsie daisy it could happen to anyone xD" bullshit excuse. Secondly, I will bet everything that your dad is doing all the hard work and you're just sad that you didn't get a piece of the pie. You're upset because you cannot claim glory now that you committed your honor to the business venture. If she's a good partner she will support you through your failures and triumphs. In fact, you hiding this makes you dishonest and honestly a beta faggot who cannot accept accountability and you'll likely just make up some shit or ghost her again like the little bitch you are.Ultimately, this is a LDR and those are tough so it really depends on what you're looking for. Are you willing to face your demons and shame and do you actually care about this person and want to make it work? Talk to her.If not, don't bother. You already abandoned her like a little bitch. No need to change who you are.
>>34442176>What does she want?How the fuck would we know? Ask her.
>>34442176>>34442179Sorry to say, but >>34442408 is kind of right. We can't know for sure, all we can do is guess, and our guesses are probably at best as good as yours.If I had to say, I'd say she just wants to keep in contact with you again, see how you're holding up, if you're with someone else at the moment, stuff like that. Maybe she wants to rekindle stuff between you? Who knows. You just gotta reply, wait and see.That being said, I understand your reasons for cutting ties with her, but at the same time I don't... if you really liked her, why cut her off like that for so long? It's not like it had anything to do with her, it's not something about her behavior or anything she has done... but at the same time, I do understand it. Sometimes we feel so miserable we don't want to involve other people in our problems.But if you really liked her to the point of (kind of) proposing, and if things were good between you, I think it's expected that you share your concerns and moments with each other... I don't see how what happened to you would upset her, unless you're ashamed of it because you fear she may get upset.
>>34442443Yeah i see. Thanks for this helpful comment. I cut her off because I got a severe shock and was medicated with anti depressants, its safe to say I infact lost my mind back then(literally since the work was 2 years down the drain). My dad setup a good project for me to tackle. Even after doing everything perfectly I relied too much on a single guy to finance it which was my mistake anyways. >>34442346For you, I appreciate your harshness in telling me off. But let me clarify your assumptions on me,>dad is doing all the hard work he set it up and gave me the charge till the final 2 months. Even though I appreciate him greatly and his connections, I would like to take the credit for the things I did and how I actually managed to get the investors and a reliable venture capitalist to oversee my work as a mentor. > In fact, you hidingI dont know really, I am not hiding. I am really scared if I go down the depression path again and do it again to her. I mean doing it voluntarily is one thing but doing it in a major shock is out of my hands. > who cannot accept accountabilitySimply not true. I took the entire responsibility of the event and paid off the reports, investigations and all the money I owed to the law firm which was hired to go through the deal through my current job. In her case I dont want to mention all this to her because "She will think - Oh maybe its not his fault and he was a victim of a circumstance outside his control" This is gonna infact make me look like I am avoiding accountability WHICH I dont want to do. > Ultimately, this is a LDR and those are tough so it really depends on what you're looking for. Are you willing to face your demons and shame and do you actually care about this person and want to make it work?The big problem is she is loosing time and I dont have any money to go see her if ever she indicates she wants to restart. I am stuck incredibly hard between - restarting this or telling her to find someone better.
>>34442408Yeah ahahhaha I read the post again. I wrote it under severe anxiety. It really doesnt make sense to ask an online forum of what she wants ahahahaha. Sounds stupid as hell.
>>34442176Say you're a pathetic depressed money obsessed cunt and apologize
>ahahahaha oh no, my ex texted me again, I better make a huge deal out of it uwu>Here let me write entire fucking J A Jance books on the topicIn other news, employment is tough.
>>34442509You anons definetly live up to the 4chan experience.
>>34442176be honest with her and pursue ityou're retarded btw
>>34442545Well thanks for the advise. Yeah will tell her because there's no point in lying anyways. I would need to allure to all the senses of it. >you're retarded btwAt this point any thread I read has convinced me no one here is not retarded. You all throw this word so much it has lost its meaning ahahahhaahha
@34442574>Allure>Everyone is a big retarded meany poo pants harrumph! Angwy kitty emoticon from 2000 agoNigga, you can't even keep a cake pop from Starbucks, much less a female, God forbid a woman. It's gonna be funny watching you crawl back here and cry.
>>34442585ok cuntass start spouting your opinions on my story as well. We all know I fucked up bad and I feel about it. Any genuine bullshit you have to speak then please enlighten me. I am here to get good opinions not your degenerate spoutings. At least this fuckass (>>34442346) left something meaningful in the end to contribute here which could be appreciated none the less. We just had a great talk. She is inviting me to her recently released crime web series' avant premiere to show her second ever show. Apparently she knew the entire thing from my sister and left me alone for the entire period since she didn't want me feel even more dejected than I was.
>>34442496You're in no obligation to answer, but did everything go well mang?I hope it did. I don't know you, but I can understand the way you felt and why you acted the way you did. I myself had a girl I talked for years, we had a lot in common and I admired her so much, but I was feeling like shit at the time, not because of her of course, I just hated myself and didn't want to involve her in my shitty life, so I just sort of abandoned the idea, only to regret it later.Best wishes, OP.
>>34442176Just jackoff and sleep.
>>34442201you sound like a massive pussy. reply
