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I’m a 25 year old with no social skills and also no experience with women.
I don’t understand how I’m ever supposed to get talking with a woman when the usual advice is something like “go to a bar” I feel like that only works if you have atleast some social skills.
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>>34443248
By zero social skills, what do you mean exactly?
Do you have friends? Do you have co-workers, colleagues, family? Do you interact well with them?

But in any case, social skills, like any skills, need to be developed over time. Some people have more aptitude towards it than others, but it's something you pick up the more you interact with others; you sort of learn how to maneuver around social situations, more or less.

So I suggest to start small. A good morning/afternoon/evening to others, being polite, making small comments, stuff like that. If you really feel like you have no skill at all, I recommend trying to make friends with others first, and only later attempting to find a gf.

Another thing I think might be useful is to work on yourself. Have hobbies, have interests, make yourself more interesting, that should both give you some confidence and it is something to talk about, in case you share interests and stuff. Learning how to listen to other people is also important, people like when the recipient cares about them.
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Learn to dance, specifically social partner dancing. Don't make excuses before you go, dancing is hard to learn especially for leads, dont be a coomer and hide your power level well, let the women lead the conversations while you learn to dance then bootstrap off of learned data when it becomes time for you to lead conversation in future. Hide power level
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>>34443248
Don't look for women. Look for social situations. Put yourself in settings where you are among people of all genders, just to get used to casual conversation, small talk, meeting people, etc. When you are a little moire comfortable around people, you will be a little more comfortabkle around female-type people.

Meet your neighbors, your coworkers. Join a club, a team, a gym, a church. Take a class. Do volunteer work.
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>>34443248
talk to people like you're talking to your dog :3
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>>34443248
Stick with yo wife.



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