How do you take more risks without becoming a total idiot? I don't want to start going off my head and falling off a cliff. Also, how do you be more extrovert and gregarious socially without just being a bigmouth and annoying people?
>>34443572Hey anon. I have had impulse issues my whole life and so taking risks had always been second nature to me, I've always acted first and thought later. In this type of life you cannot take risks and avoid being a total idiot. The risk lifestyle means failure and humiliation and pain and blunder will become as common to you as catching a cold. But so will success, and the way it balances out is over time over 1,000 failures the success to loss ratio tips in your favour month by month, year by year. Because of osmosis, muscle memory and pattern recognition sharpening. You learn which risks will yield failure for absolute certainty and which yield success, and you learn that through constant failure and trial and error. The same is true for social extroversion, you need to be socially smacked around metaphorically from 1,000 people for every social mistake you make, adapting each and every time. Once you have a solid mental repository of memories of what not to do or what not to say built up, you begin to speak in ways that are always gonna land you social hit after hit. It's a very difficult lifestyle because you will go numb and lose a lot of people but also gain them too. You may even become jaded or cynical throughout the process but in the end you emerge more stronger and your character becomes more colourful at the end.
>>34443587Thanks for the reply. I worry I've left it too late and don't have enough time to make too many mistakes (boring, cautious past) but get what you're saying.
>>34443629Nah you haven't left it too late. It only took me so long because I had these risk seeking behaviours since I was a boy. So that meant I was learning as a child, and children learn very slowly, at least for this sort of thing. If you begin as an adult you learn it quicker because you have adult reasoning backing you up. You'll develop the exact same perspectives I have in half the time, maybe even a quarter of the time. What took me decades could only take you a handful of years. If you are autistic for example, it would take you just a year or two because you would already have a very quick and methodical learning process built in. But what stops autists from risk behaviours is the perfectionism (wanting to get it right in the first try) & catastrophic thinking (ruminating excessively on 'what if' fantasies of failure). If you can push past those two barriers and allow risk taking to merge with your pre-emptive and methodical learning mechanics, you will boost towards progress at break neck speed.
>>34443650>>34443629>Cont Just make sure to exclude these categories from risk taking as you venture forth to keep you from fatal failures, aka failures that could ruin your life or end it:>Drugs>Alcohol>Gambling with money>Investment and stock trading>Climbing heights higher than 30 feet>Sex with strangers, or people you have only known for less than one monthSave those areas of risk for dead-last. Exclude them for at least a couple of years and only permit them once you have built up risk experience. Start small, work your way up.
>>34443650>But what stops autists from risk behaviours is the perfectionism (wanting to get it right in the first try) & catastrophic thinking (ruminating excessively on 'what if' fantasies of failure).Described me perfectly, lol
>>34443675Yep, because I could tell that was your way of thinking at a glance from your two posts. You'll develop that skill too by the way. Anyway I gotta sleep I wish you the best fren, happy risk taking to you. (Or unhappy, that's the point. Letting yourself feel anxious but doing the thing anyway). Either way all the best!
>>34443572Have you tried options trading? You can lose your life savings in minutes
