okay, so there's this guy that I like, but my only issue... he's an incel. sad panda, yes I know. he's not AWFUL, I mean this is my type, but he puts me down a LOT ... do I say anything and try to go out with him, or scrap it entirely? I super wana try this, even though I don't think I'm awfully good looking and maybe I'm not good enough?? I know guys like him aren't big on dating and all that, but maybe if I'm honest he'll say yes??thx cuties!! luv uimage is irrelevant
>>34444175I say tell him how you feel and see if he can change. Don't try to change his mind. Tell him that it makes you feel bad.
>>34444175>he puts me down a LOTThat will NEVER get better, and is likely to escalate>maybe I'm not good enoughNo - HE is not good enough for you
>>34444175I wouldn't. The issue with incels is their mentality. He views himself as unloveable and you loving him (weirdly) cannot change that.
>>34444175>he puts me down a LOT ... do I say anything and try to go out with him, or scrap it entirely?This is probably a coping mechanism of some kind, which is not something that can easily be fixed. Even if you manic-pixie-dream-girl him there'll still be that little part of him that needs to put others down to feel safe, and you'll be his most accessible target.
>>34444889His worldview that hes unlovable only be reinforced if OP wouldnt try.
>>34444175>he puts me down a LOTYou match that energy if you can
>>34444990True, but her dating him is unlikely to change his opinion. It will just shift from "I'm unlovable, I'm an incel" to "I'm unloveable, she probably secretly hates me and would leave at the drop of a hat"
>>34445076>would leave at the drop of a hatBut its kind of true. Cheating is a common thing after all. Sure, living on paranoid mode isnt attractive but being clueless isnt an option too.
>>34444175>advice for saying a guy who has incel ideologyMy advice is: don't. You don't want to be dating someone whose primary identity is based on hating women.
>>34444175>he puts me down a LOTWhy the fuck would you want to date someone who does that?
>>34444175He isn't meant for you.Any guy that's a misogynist & takes it out on you isn't worth it.
OP here.... TYY I realized that he's really not a great guy and when I said I thought he was cute, he called me a slut so uhm that happened but I appreciate u guys tysm [awkwardsigh]
>>34444889WEIRDLY! I can't lmao
