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>you’re a 10/10 personality wise; and you make good money so it doesn’t even matter that I’m not attracted you to”
My gf of two years just told me this last night. Completely sober, and was confused I was upset

Is leaving the only sensible option or what?I don’t see myself staying in a relationship where she isn’t even attracted to me. It came out of left field too
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pick up endurance sports
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Women see physical attraction different. In her mind it was probably a compliment.
Also, be real, are you attractive?
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>>34444500
>>34444444

The only question that matters is what YOU want.
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Leave.
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Harsh
Up to you what to do now: do you want to work out and looksmax to make her like you, or do you wanna slap the thot out of your life since she just admitted to only be around you for your money and tolerate you for your personality.
To simp or not to simp, that is the question.
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>>34444722
This anon is right. You have to decide if you're okay dating someone who isn't physically attracted to you. If you aren't, leave her and find a girl that thinks you're smoking hot
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>>34444500
Did you try lifting weights?
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Besides what she said, has she tried grabbing your ass, touching you or holding you under your shirt, initiate sex, stare at you when she thinks you didn't notice? She could be bad at explaining
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Cheat on her with her mum

Dont pull out
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>>34445126
Only bpd girls do that
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>>34444500
Ask if she is aro or ace. If she says you have a good personality and likes you for that, that is way more important than physical attraction. Let her know what your needs are, and discuss the relationship from there.
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>>34444500
she might be aromantic or asexual or is attracted to you because of personality but worded it wrong. you should ask her what she meant before doing anything to understand the situation
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>>34447725
>ask her if she's a cis woman
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Blud found out he’s betabuxx
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>>34444500
>you’re a 10/10 personality wise; and you make good money so it doesn’t even matter that I’m not attracted you to”
Allow me to rephrase that for you:
"Good looking guys are often asshole dickbags and it's incredibly difficult to find a decent guy who can make me feel secure. I feel so lucky to have found you since your personality is amazing and I know you'll take care of me. A guy's appearance doesn't really matter much anyway."

There isn't really any reason for women to think a man's appearance is that important or that telling him that she doesn't think he looks good would be devastating.
Women are judged by their appearance.
Men are judged by their capability.

All that said, there's a huge difference between "I don't consider you to be good looking" and "I don't find you attractive and I am not attracted to you."
If there's no miscommunication and she genuinely doesn't find you attractive at all, then sex will eventually stop and she'll probably think that's perfectly normal and that relationships are transactional. She could also be an honest and forthright golddigging whore. I don't know.

Clarify what she is thinking and feeling with thorough communication before making conclusions or acting on those conclusions.
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>>34447239
>Only bpd girls do that
That is not true
They do it more freely though.
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