Coming for advice here so I don't sound weird to my friends.In the last month I've lost 2 of my uncles, my grandma and my girlfriend of 3 years (not dead she just dumped me), and on top of that I feel like I don't have a single truly close friend. Despite that most of the time I feel absolutely fucking nothing at all except for anger at myself for not feeling anything.The only time I really feel energy or anything close to happiness is when I'm drunk at music gigs.Every so often I'll cry on the way to/at work but other than that I feel almost nothing at all and it's pissing me off, I feel like I'm missing out on the human experience.Not diagnosed with anything either idk if thats relevant.Cheers for any advice and sorry for the bad formatting.
>>34444756There are no rules to either grief or heartbreak, no "ought to" or "right way". WHATEVER your soul leads you to feel - and that includes "Nothing" - is right for you.
>>34444756Grief hits people differently. Stop being angry at yourself for this. Some people feel numb at loss and that's fine
>>34444756What is a feel anyhow. Who needs em.
>>34444756Do you normally feel things and it's only recently that you stopped, or has it always been like this?
>>34444756>I feel like I'm missing out on the human experienceMore importantly, it sounds like you've missed the point of the human experience. You're alive to overcome grief, to learn how to accept loss, and to regard nothing as your own other than your character and conduct. You shouldn't want to wallow in self pity, because people who wallow in self pity after suffering a loss are proving that they haven't learned anything from life and haven't grown past immaturity. If you were crying and feeling miserable every day, it wouldn't be for their sake, it would be for your own. They're gone, nothing can hurt them, so there's no reason to feel bad for their sake. People who find themselves swallowed up by grief only do so because they find a perverse pleasure in it. They become addicted to self pity, and use it as a means of spiritual masturbation. Be glad you aren't like that, rather than wishing you were like that.
>>34444756I think it’s fairly normal for males, that’s why they can do the most evil things
thanks for all the advice especially the 2nd last bloke. I'm gonna try not get caught up in what I should and shouldn't be feeling, Imma remember them and go on with life since that's all I can really doAlso to the last bloke, I'm not about that evil shmeevil life.
>>34444756This would have less surprising to you if you knee astrology. ARIES.
>>34445967Googled it, I am not. Whatever floats your boat though
