>block my ex (who dumped me) in order to protect myself>find out she’s dating a new guy two weeks later>panic unblock, message “hey” “can you talk on the phone sometime?”>no response or “read” for 24 hours, I block again>a month later, get an email saying>”I’m sorry I didn’t see that you had tried to message me until today. I wanted to make sure you knew that I would like to talk to you soon if that’s still something you want. Please let me know.”>”I hope you’ve been doing well. Maybe you’ll tell me about it?”>”I’ve missed you.”>reply with a cold polite “hope you’re doing well too. Let me know when works for you.”>4 days and she hasn’t replied to thatWhat the hell adv
>>34445154Idk, seems like she's fucking with you and farming you for emotional energy. You should probably stop trying to talk to her.
>>34445154>What the hell advShe's acting like a polite, considerate, sane person, and you're acting crazy. What's there to understand?
>>34445154Go back to blocking her and let her move on with her life
Unblock her so you can talk to her when she is available, BUT DONT BE DESPERATE. Forget you even have her as unblocked until when, or better yet if, she decides to talk to you.Let the conversation carry itself (if you even have one) and then decide if it was worth it or not. Was she farming you for emotional energy like anon said, or was she genuine? Would she matter to you anymore now that time has passed? You decide. Make sure to not stress it, go into it calm, and honestly not even think about it. If she hits you you again to talk, great, see where it leads, if not, won't matter since you forgot you even unblocked her
>>34445159How exactly is she acting polite and considerate?>>34445158>>34445178Knowing what her motivation is would help me move on. I do still want to know what she has to say, though based on the silence I doubt it’s because she regrets everything and wants to get back together
>>34445185>Knowing what her motivation is would help me move on.Maybe she will tell you, or maybe she won't. But you cannot double text. It never leads to anything good.
>>34445184>>34445189How exactly could she have farmed me for emotional energy with an email?
>>34445197You're clearly confused about her behavior and made a thread about it. She's testing to see if you cave and start displaying desperate behavior.
>>34445198For what purpose?
holy fucking retardmy advice is to get treatment for your disorder
>>34445218It depends on your reaction. If you cave, then it's to extract your emotional energy. If you don't cave, then she might consider getting with you. But if she dumped you, why would you want that? If you just wait a few months, you won't care about her anymore.
>>34445185>How exactly is she acting polite and considerate?You blocked her, like an immature kid lashing out. A while later you reached out (for deeply unhealthy reasons) then immediately blocked her again. She didn't see your message for a long time (because you had blocked her again). When she did see it, she immediately reached out, sounding concerned for you welfare, asking if you needed to talk. Instead of saying yes, you were cold to her; so she figured you didn't need to talk and let you get on with it - which, given that you are her ex and she has a boyfriend, is entirely appropriate. I'm genuinely baffled as to what you think she's done wrong.
>>34445259I blocked her because even though she dumped me, she still wanted to ask me for advice and wanted my emotional support. I told her I couldn’t just be “friends” and that such an arrangement would hurt me, so she accused me of my love/care being conditional. She also said, “you told me you have abandonment issues? Take a look in the mirror.” It made me realize that I had no choice but to block her
to add, she also kept up this pattern of ghosting and then texting things like “i still love you and miss you, i don’t know what to do,” then ghosting when I said we could try to fix things or that she just has to say she wants to try again and we can proceed. It was really damaging to me to be in this push-pull with someone who didn’t actually want me.
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