How do you cope with bad memories, trauma, bad life decisions, and regrets? No matter what you do they won't go away. You can't rewind and replay those moments. It's part of you forever.
Hope you learned your lesson and just keep moving forward, trying not to repeat those mistakes again. That's all we can do.If it wasn't a learning experience, then you'll be trying to do those mistakes again. It's even worse if you actually enjoyed those mistakes and hold onto them as cherished memories because of the time you were in. Maybe you can't forgive yourself, but with times you'll at least forget.
>>34447184
eat ice planets
>>34447184to be honest, I don't
>>34447184After the fact I ruminate everyday for like 4 months straight. Gradually the pain decreases and the moments of contentment increase in duration.
>>34447207how could you possibly learn from 'mistakes' like trauma that was done to you? I'm not playing victim but you can't really function normally after such an experience. It absolutely fucks with the reality you live in.
>>34447341Thank you, Grovyle.
>>34447184knowing everything effects everything else as a butterfly effect, and to change a single thing in my life would require going back to the big bang and changing that
https://www.wikidoc.org/index.php/Defence_mechanismtry to apply level 4 defence mechanisms, while avoiding the lower ones
>>34447586>you can't really function normally after such an experienceYes, you absolutely can. I know that I have, and there are countless historical examples of children who were beaten, crippled and molested, only for them to grow up into happy, healthy adults who used those experiences to make themselves immune to future traumas.>how could you possibly learn from 'mistakes' like trauma that was done to you?You learn how how valuable compassion is, how to love justice, and how heinous a person's behavior becomes when it lacks those things. You learn how to make yourself good, because you genuinely and truly hate evil. Whatever gentleness and righteousness I possess today, I owe to the abuse I went through growing up.>It absolutely fucks with the reality you live in.Only if you allow it to. If you take the positive route, and try to turn the bad into good, then it can become the fuel you need to escape the delusions that come with trauma.
>>34448377>Whatever gentleness and righteousness I possess today, I owe to the abuse I went through growing up.that sounds dysfunctional
Thats life baybeeee. Be better or kill yourself, pussy. Turn your pain into progress my nigga!
>>34448379It's the only way that learning takes place, it's really only a question of degrees. In order to understand the difference between good behavior and bad behavior, and see what an ugly and unpleasant sight bad behavior is, a person has to be exposed to bad behavior at some point in their lives.Those of us who were exposed to extremely bad behavior early on, have all the more reason and motivation to pursue good behavior ourselves. Our suffering taught us the importance of doing what we can to prevent the suffering of others. It's something to be thankful for, not resentful about. Dysfunctionality is when a person refuses to learn and instead wallows in their own self pity, or allows their abuse to warp them into becoming an abuser themselves.
>>34448392morality is subjective
>>34447184>How do you cope with bad memories, trauma, bad life decisions, and regrets?Look at women's private parts to distract yourself briefly
>>34448438It's not. If it were, you would lose any and all right to complain about having been abused, because according to your abuser their behavior was morally good. Their claim would be equal to yours, thus you're entitled to no apology and no sympathy.
