>>34447594
Make sure she goes to therapy. Also unironically just spank her with your sandal and or a rolled up magazine. You're basically disciplining her and you'll make her feel embarrassed for behaving like a child.

Make sure she sees you as reliable. If you start noticing her just playing with you and noticing things slipping, she ain't your type.

>>34447594
Shorty a lil' baddie (she a lil' baddie)
Shorty my lil' boo thing (boo thing)
And shorty got the fatty!
Shorty be catching mood swangs!!

Lmao "baddie". Anyway bro:
>BPD
The minute you resemble her abusive upbringing even if it's just a 1% resemblance, you're fucked. One emotional flashback from her and she dissociates as begins to see you as a threat against her life. BPD is essentially PTSD but the battlefield wasn't a warzone that fucked them up, it was relationships to humans.

>Daddy issues
That particular human yes. And you are going to resemble her father by merit of the fact you have a dick and a man's face and a man's voice.

>Drug problems
And if you try to talk her out of them, she snaps

>Alcohol
And if you try to talk her out of that, she snaps

>Tattoos and piercings
And if you try to talk her out of that, she snaps

>Rebellious
And if you try to talk her out of that, she snaps

>Fake nails
And if you try to talk her out of that, she snaps

>Extremely fucking loyal
Only to your nice guy people pleasing act. Only if she sees you as Mr. Angel. The minute you have a bad day and you do the human mistake of having a negative emotion, that loyalty is gone in an instant.
A BPD partner is like having a tiger for a pet. They're cool and fun and exciting, but one wrong move and you're dead. (Emotionally speaking). You need to become her personal jesus or Gautama Buddha and exhibit absolutely zero flaws and zero negative emotions if you want to keep her. And that's not going to happen because you are only a man.

Good luck bro

>>34447594
>>Extremely fucking loyal
doesn't really go with the rest of your list

>>34447854
>Cont
I should be fair and add: If she is BPD + she is in psychotherapy and she has it diagnosed and has at least a handful of self awareness, then it's doable. Then a BPD type can be a great partner. (Diagnosed and treated BPDs make for fantastic parents. They're far better at being a parent than a partner).
>>34447594
But only IF she is getting treated nigga. If she's not in the process of recovery, your odds with her are dead in the water.

>>34447594
>>Extremely fucking loyal
x to doubt
I don't see how BPD people, not matter how sweet they are, can be (consistently) loyal when they dissociate into psychopaths who try to do the worst thing possible whenever they are stressed, and rub it in your face
To me that sounds like a recipe for cheating, particularly since they might need to rationalise their past behaviour, which means effectively coming up with reasons to do it in the future

>>34447594
Why is this type of woman so hot? I can fix her...

>>34448050
She will always have a spot in my heart, but the risk tollerance necessary is deranged

>>34448044
There's 265 different types of BPD believe it or not. Not all of them cheat. Some self harm, others just binge alcohol, some just do drugs, others spend money recklessly, and the rare few show no signs at all but have a really really painful inner world

I’ve dated two baddies in my life and both of them fucked me up good. The last one had me nearly suicidal. Was it worth it? Still yes, kind of

might as well shoot ya in the foot lol

>>34447594
One of these things is not like the others.
>Extremely fucking loyal
This one right here. You're only fooling yourself.

>>34448071
>All of them cheat.
ftfy. no need to thank me, we all have these slipups occasionally.

>>34447594
>le bpd
>le daddy issues
>le drug problems
people like you are genuinely nothing. when she inevitably drives you to suicide, i will celebrate your removal from the gene pool.

>>34448872
Nah not all of them cheat. Their combination of:
>Fear of abandonment
>High impulsivity
>Validation/Reassurance seeking
Yeah these are all gonna increase odds of cheating, but it's not always gonna happen with every BPD case. They do typically run to speak to other people when they're in an episode, but it won't necessarily be the opposite sex and it won't necessarily be for sexual or romantic attention. That's down to other factors like whether or not they learned to seek that kind of attention for instant gratification. Some of them just run to an online forum to trauma dump or vent to strangers, or some might just spend an obscene amount of time with their same sex friend and pester them or demand hanging out with them just to avoid (you). In my experience if the BPD has divorced parents, or parents that had affairs and they learned about it, they're most likely gonna cheat. If they hadn't learned that sort of thing and never normalized it, they typically don't cheat.

The reason why you never meet or hear about those BPDs is because people don't encounter them in dating, because those types of BPD don't run to relationships for attention to begin with.

>>34447939
Can you treat BPD? I had one ex gf with BPD. The main issue was how occasionally she would have meltdowns. They would trigger out of nowhere without warning. When having a meltdown she would become abusive and scream and blame me for every single bad thing that ever happened to her and call me the worst person in the world and so on. I don't know if any treatment would work on those. I had to leave her because I had enough of her abusive meltdowns.

>>34447594
Where do I find a gf like this

>>34449074
Yeah it can be treated. Psychotherapy & optional antipsychotic medication. Psychotherapy is like an all-in-one therapy that includes cognitive behavioural (how to become better aware of their own actions).
dialectical behavioural (why the emotions to enact those behaviours happen).
Psychodynamic (where those emotional patterns or behavioural cycles may have been learned/adapted in the past).

Basically a course of therapy that just gives them control over their own impulses and also identifying where they began in their life. And the antipsychotics are helpful to turn the 'emotional volume' down in their systems. They actually feel emotions with greater intensity than the average person. That's why if you ever got angry at a BPD and they returned fire with a disproportionate amount of anger in return, it's because to the BPD that's how you sounded or felt to them in their mind. Which is pretty trippy to think about.

>>34449107
>>34449074
>Cont

And the treatment rates are very good for BPD. 93-99% remission rates, the highest of any disorder (remission in psychology means the disorder no longer is diagnosable during a retest). It's actually the easiest disorder to treat and "cure".

But it's paradoxically the most psychologically painful disorder a human can have because it intensifies felt emotions so severely that it's psychosomatic for them. BPDs report that life to them feels like having a body with no skin, and everything stings and burns mentally. Waking up for them feels like electrocution and going to sleep feels like drowning. And every single interaction with others humans for them is magnified in its meaning or significance by 200% to their minds. Which means they either feel happy and extremely loved by someone, or if you disagree with them, they feel you just stabbed them repeatedly.

That's why it's a tricky ass disorder. It's the easiest to treat but getting a BPD into treatment to begin with is the challenge. By the time they get to that point they've probably got zero trust in humans

>>34447594
>BPD
sorry bud
>Daddy issues
who cares
>Drug problems
you're probably fucked
>Alcohol
normal
>Tattoos and piercings
normal
>Rebellious
depends on in what way
>Fake nails
normal
>Extremely fucking loyal
so this will most likely end due to the BPD or rebelliousness

advice is have fun and don't get her pregnant. in truth, she likely isn't able to be fixed unless you are able to really stand your ground and put up with a lot of bullshit. I've been here and after a month I wanted to rip my hair out.

>>34447594
>Extremely fucking loyal
lol

>>34447594
My advice is not to date her but just be friends with benefits basically assume she will cheat and when she does treat her kindly tell her it's all good I didn't take this that seriously either and that we can be friends with benefits if u want still then add her to the roster that's how u do it.