I'm a single man and i never really had much luck in love, but i always wanted to form a family and be a dad, so I met a woman through an agency and hired her as a surrogate. I also purchased her eggs. Once the baby was born, she asked if I needed a babysitter, and I agreed because she said it was difficult for her to let the child go and i felt it was too cruel to separate them at once. The problem is that I've noticed she's getting too close to my kid. She's started referring to herself as the kid's "mommy" and I don't think that’s appropriate. After all she is only a surrogate. My son is 3 years old, and he seems very attached to her. I don't want to hurt him but I think it's time to go separate ways with that woman.Any advice about how to do this? I tried to talk this out with my therapist but she is useless. And I don't have many friends to talk this out. I talked with someone from the agency I talked about and they basically told me that im an idiot for taking things too far.
>>34447798Just marry her. Kids need a mom as much as a dad.
>>34447798I think I saw this movie.
>>34447798What's your relationship with this woman? Is she single like you and doesn't have much else going on in her life? Or does she simply enjoy being a mom without having to settle down (and getting paid for it on top of that)? Maybe try doing something as a family to see if there's some spark before you cut her off. And if you do, the kid is just three, so it shouldn't affect it too much.
What do you think would be best for your son? It might be good to consult a family lawyer too, there's a chance she has parental rights despite being a surrogate, or she could eventually obtain them.
