How do I stay in love with someone? I've been in six relationships (all offline) but lose interest less than a year in. I go from wanting to marry the person to feeling absolutely nothing for them almost overnight. Not even platonic feelings, I just go to complete indifference. 26M
>>34450054Probably a case of codependency. Codependency is the addiction to relationships, similar to sex addicts but relationship addicts get off on the high of infatuation at the honeymoon phase and then when it wears off they lose all feelings because they realize they didn't actually want to choose to love the person they met, they instead wanted to feel love for the idealised image, the idea of that person, in their own heads.
>>34450054>How do I stay in love with someone?You can't - not in the way that you mean. It's a function of normal human biology that when you're first with someone there's a strong initial infatuation - the "honeymoon period" - but that this ALWAYS fades. What you need to do is stop depending on that. Think carefully about what kind of person you might be able to feel a different kind of connection with, something that is milder, but also more lasting. If you do feel the initial infatuation, that's not a bad thing: it keeps the two of you together for a while and makes it amazing. But instead of hoping that initial feeling will persist, you need to consciously use that time to build something else.
