heya /adv/ I know there's a lot of men on 4chan so I'm coming here for some help. I was wondering... what would a girl have to do to successfully hookup with u? and no I don't want to wear makeup it's waay too expensiveidk what to do when I approach a guy and I wanna make sure they don't try to go further for a relationship or anything. just want a one night stand thing. but I also wanna make sure they don't like, have an std. I'm an introvert sooo I really need help with this. what should my lines be? should I make a script or anything? rly sry if that's a dumb question but as u can prob tell Im cluelessss T~T
the OP is man btw.
>>34450600OP is always a fag anyway.
>>34450600might be hard to believe but i am in fact a cis woman, ik mostly men are on 4chan lol that's why im here :P
>>34450593For hookups you just need to get on a hookup app and live near a city. Make it clear in your profile that you are not looking for a relationship. You can use lighting tricks when taking pictures of yourself. It also helps if you bathe and aren't fat although some guys like fat, so... eh.If you want to make sure they don't have an std you can request testing paperwork and also condoms. Also get tested yourself. This may feel awkward, but guys also don't want to get stds so they should find this reasonable. If they don't, you should probably pass.Stay safe by meeting the guy in a neutral location like a cafe first. Get a hotel instead of going over to your place or their place. Tell a friend where you are going and to call the police if they don't hear from you by a certain time.
>>34450871Forgot to mention another stay safe is only drink your own sealed bottled water, and don't drink from it again if you had to look away from your drink and didn't have your eyes on the guy.
>>34450871but like what should I say?? messaging someone then meeting up for a date seems really intimidating I just wanna skip to the good part T~T
>>34450593Are you fucking stupid?
>>34451038Are you fucking stupid?
>>34450593Don't hookup, just don't. If you want to have sex get a bf, but hookups will just get you used by scummy guys, possible getting STD or getting pregnant or you might catch feeling for the guy.
>>34451063i'm rly just not ready for a romantic relationship, I don't want anything like that. I wanna stay independent and just bang on the side. abortions r legal where I live so that's always an option if something goes wrong.>>34451053what did I do that made u want to say it twice :/
>>34451069you will destroy yourselfyou just mentally cut your wristskeep your virginity and use it up when you are ready for something real and serious
>>34451075u sound rly dramatic, i dont understand what's so bad? if I ever do get into a relationship, well I'll have experience tho. right?
>>34451038The guy will want to get to know you a bit, at least. Contrary to what you think most guys will not want to "skip to the good part".If you just want fun without the relationship part, like a fwb thing, it will be easier to bring it up with older guys, they will be more likely to be ok with such a thing when asked and will be more straightforward about what they are ok with.
>>34451081ok fine but... what do i say tho
>>34451077experience will let you compare and you are more likely to not be satisfied with a otherwise great man
>>34451087ugh but it fucking sucks being a virgin tho like im CURRENTLY not satisfied T~T like im just rubbing to ao3 and i feel patheticexperience just makes me do a better job doesnt it??
>>34451085So let's say you match with a guy on Tinder. First you just say something like, hey you look handsome, want to meet? By getting straight to the point you send the signal that you are not looking for anything serious or longterm. Again, much more likely to work with older guys, guys your age will be inexperienced and much more likely to only want a serious relationship.
Remember the codeword "netflix and chill". If you agree to meet for that, at his place, then that's what you will get.
>>34451106LMAO no it doesn'tyou'll just get pumped and dumped and still be a dumbass loserif you're gonna blow your pussy out you're better off buying sex toys instead of risking getting an STD from some rando lolthat or just be a whore and have guys pay for your dinner and you let them hit afterwards LMAO
>>34451116well like. 'pump and dump' is kinda what I want tho? I dont want to interact with him afterwards I just wanna have fun.I already own sex toys and like clearly they just arent enough. i mean im broke so maybe its just cause theyre cheap :pas for dinner... I mean that's the problem tho. if u have dinner with somebody u have to like... socially interact... and i suuuuck at that
>>34450593You massively underestimate how horny most men are. If you want one-off sex, literally all you have to do is 1) don't be fat, 2) get yourself on Tinder, 3) match with some guys you like the look of, 4) send a message saying "Hey, you're hot! Want to fuck?" Most of them will say yes. It really is that simple.
>>34451038You can literally say "Heyyyyyy, I'm looking for a no strings attached hook up tonight." Guys like straight-forward. It helps us so much when you simply state your intentions.
>>34451142i just dont think I could handle being rejected tho. especially if im only talking to really hot guys coz i'm like... broke and my only skill is that I play the piano T~T
>>34451150If all you're after is one-off sex, all that matters is what you look like. Guys who don't think you look good won't bother to match with you. All you have to do is show up and be willing.
Lurk (don't post) on /soc/. In the middle of all the lgbt threads there will be a few suitable ones, for example one for your location. See guys post their contact info, when you find someone close to you just message him.
>>34451181don't post? why?
>>34451150Also, again, you don't understand how horny men are. Back in the 1990s there were some experiments done on university campuses. The experimenters chose someone of student age whom they considered to be reasonably attractive. That person then had to go around approaching people at random and saying "Hi! I've noticed you around campus - I think you're really attractive. Would you sleep with me tonight?" When it was a man approaching women, 0% of the women said yes: out of thousands of approaches, they didn't get a single yes. When it was a woman approaching men, 75% said yes. If you subtract the guys who were asexual, gay, or already in a relationship and not wanting to cheat, that's essentially all of them saying yes to casual sex with a complete stranger. (Rather delightfully, if the question was changed to "Would you like to go for a drink some time?" the number of men saying yes dropped from 75% to 50%).And that's for a face-to-face approach at random. If you're on Tinder you're dealing with guys who are actively looking for casual sex. Plus, you won't be messaging anyone who hasn't already swiped right on you, which they won't have done unless they think you look okay. You will not get many rejections.
>>34451184If you post your contact info there you will be flooded with desperate gooners adding you.
>>34451185ohh? that sounds great but... 1990 was a rly long time ago. idk if it's the same almost 40 yrs later. im certainly not like those women 40 yrs ago. lots of things prob have changed since :V
>>34451205weeell, then we'll have something in common ;p
>>34451250>lots of things prob have changed sinceYeah. Men have become a lot more desperate.
>>34450593>just want a one night stand thingthat's easy, unless you're ugly or fat>find a confident / good looking man>start a conversation about a-ny-thing (the weather, you're lost and need directions, doesn't matter)>smile / laugh / pretend he's saying the most interesting shithe'll do the restthis works on apps too, you don't even have to approach IRL
>>34451297desu that sounds easier said than doneomg one time when I was in high school a guy started talking to me and I somehow told him i was lesbian by ACCIDENT T_Tmy social skills are that bad
>>34451331>guy tries talking to you >”no I have a bf”>”no I’m a lesbian”>my social skillsNo it’s just women are horrible vindictive creatures
>>34451331Not even sexist. A guy would never do this. Could you imagine a guy saying he’s gay because he doesn’t want to talk to a girl? Crazy how in 2026 you blame something that doesn’t even exist instead of just being honest. Holy shit genuinely kys
desu that sounds easier said than doneomg one time when I was in high school a guy started talking to me and I somehow told him i was lesbian by ACCIDENT T_Tmy social skills are that badMe : wtfGod : wtf
>>34451333idk if im the horrible creature, cos i'm not the one generalising an entire sex :/>>34451347>>34451349okok look just let me explain I clocked that he was into me at the start of the convo, so I put my brain into overdrive and tried to appear as least awkward as possible and we were actually hitting it off until the end of the train trip (cos we were on the train) where he asked me if I had to choose a date whether it'd be this male teacher or this female teacher... and at the time I was so exhausted I didn't realise it was a serious question and he was using it as a subtle way to ask if I was lesbian or not so i said the female teacher as a joke and also cos she was nicer aaaand he said "oh" in a disappointed tone, I immediately figured out my mistake but the train was at my stop so I didnt have time to fix it aand we never spoke again
>>34451349You are horrible at pretending to not be underaged
>>34451392What did he do? I mean yeah he talks like he's in a youtube comment section but that doesn't mean he's underage
>>34450593I think you should wait a bit. Don't do this. Am 20f and I wish I had waited to experience sex for the first time with someone who was good for me.
>>34451697but shouldn't I like, get experience? so then I'll do a better job when I'm with the hypothetical bf
>>34450593I feel that, It seems like it should be easy, like I would obviously hook up with a girl and expect nothing after or care and still be chill or friends with benefits without being a weirdo. But to try and pin point and seek that out seems like a minefield for bitches. So I get it to an extent I think you might need to like friend someone briefly first or something to vett them, the easiest way to initiate is just have a "movie night" iight peace also virginity is a judeo christian meme and it's meaningless
>>34451347>Could you imagine a guy saying he’s gay because he doesn’t want to talk to a girl?That's because women are capable of taking no for an answer.
>create Tinder account>start swiping>when a guy whose looks you like appears, swipe right>repeat, wait until you get message>if guy says "want to come over for netflix and chill" in first or second message, say yes>go to his place>sex
Men like virgin women just say you're a virgin and you'll get creampied in no time.
>>34452150oohh rly? but I thought like.. if im a virgin that kinda gives off the impression that im like a loserplus i'll be rly bad at sex so idek if he would even be able to cum T-T
>>34453667Then find some guy who's also a virgin. That way he won't be able to tell that you're bad at sex
>>34453841idk if many guys would be willing to give away their virginity for a one night stand
>>34453667Depends on the guy. Some will be fine with it and will be willing and patient to teach you how it works. But generally speaking, you shouldn't reveal you're a virgin as the first thing. Just once you know he will want to have sex with you.
>>34450593Just don't. The more sex you have, the less value you have to get the man you actually want to settle down with eventually. All you're doing is devaluing yourself for some short term thrills.
>>34451767That's not how it works. Also, your first relationship will shape your future preferences. You'll never love somebody as much as you love your first, so choose wisely.
>>34450723ye ok op, I can also write like a girl u know? :p and be all cute and stuff on text and uncaring. Do smth better with ur life and Shuuuuut the fuck uppppp T_T
>>34454025That's not how it works. It is obvious you have never had sex or been on a date. You are probably underaged as well.
>>34454022but like how tho?? if i have more experience doesnt that mean i'd just be better at pleasing him?
>>34454025>Also, your first relationship will shape your future preferences. You'll never love somebody as much as you love your firstWhat utter bollocks! Have you ever actually spoken to a woman?
>>34454083You shouldn't expect men's feelings on this to make sense - doubly not men on 4chan. If you press a 4chan incel on this, he will probably make some absurd analogy like comparing men to keys and women to locks: "A key that can open any lock is a great key; a lock that can be opened by any key is a bad lock." Or they might say that a car is much less desirable if it's had ten previous owners.It's insane, of course; but that is the way that men around here feel (and even some men out in the real world too): that a virgin woman is precious, and that the more men she has sex with, the lower her value becomes. Guys around here would also say that when they're in bed with you they don't want to be thinking about all the other penises that have been inside you. Quite why they would be in bed with a woman and thinking about penises, I couldn't say....
