More often than not, around acquaintances and people I don't know, I don't know what to talk to them about if we don't share interests or know other people. Also conversation with people I don't know well in general causes my head to go blank and ruining any chance of a conversation. How do I fix this?
Have you tried just vibing in the interaction?
I've just accepted that if I can't think of things to talk about AND the other people don't like that then we just aren't meant to be around each other. I've gone through insane PTSD shit with drugs and processing from it afterwards and my lack of shit to say was a big part of the climax of that saga....and my conclusion from all that was it just doesn't matter. If you have that social anxiety, sure, it's still gonna bother you not saying anything, but reinforce in your thoughts any other time you can and in that moment if possible that it doesn't matter, that you can learn how to do it better, but life will be how it will, fuck it.
>>34452890Yeah I suffer from the same thing. I usually don't like to be alone just me and another person, even if they are friends, because I fear I might bore them or something, so I always try to have another person to share some of the burden of keeping the other person entertained.But in your case, what I think you can do is just to talk about something in the current situation you're both in, like, you meet a colleague on the way to class, you can mention something about the class you're going, or in your job, you can talk about something related to the job, etc.. You can also try commenting about an interest, like a series you enjoy or a movie, or a political event, etc.All in all though, you don't really need to worry about being talkative with everyone. Some people just don't have much to talk with each other, so just try and keep things cool.
>>34453694I'm OP. I'll be specific to explain the problem though. There's a girl that I think likes me, but if we went out on a date, and my brain damage or whatever it is prevents me from making conversation, then that chance is over.
>>34453734As much as I hate to say 'just be yourself', in cases such as these, it is what it is. There is a reason why she might like you, after all, so in principle, if you stay on course and act as you usually do, it should be alright.But in terms of dates and stuff, it's usually a good moment to learn more about the other person, so enjoy the moment, do some fun activity together, talk about it, get to know the things she likes or dislikes, her opinions and thoughts, how she's faring, things like that. Also talk a bit about yourself, commentate on the things she says, etc.Good luck mang, don't stress about it too much
>>34453793That makes sense to a point, but I actually fainted because I ran out of things to talk about with someone during conversation after like 5 minutes and I couldn't think of anything.
>>34452890>people I don't know, I don't know what to talk to them100% normal and universal. It would be a bit unusual if you COULD chat easily with total strangers.
>>34453878This >>34453920. It's normal to feel like you don't have anything to say to someone you don't know. There are some people who are extremely talkative with everyone, but most other people only feel comfortable speaking with people they feel that share interests and stuff.For example, the only friend I had in college. Neither me nor them were very talkative. One day I looked at their notebook screen during a presentation, and I saw an icon for a game I played. After the presentation I was a bit nervous but decided 'screw it, im just gonna do it' and asked them about it, and ever since that moment we became friends.What I mean by this rambling is that sometimes it just takes a little something to get the conversation going.
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