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I have premature ejaculation. It is part of the reason why my last girlfriend left me (part, not the sole reason). I'm now trying to solve it, but as with any exercise program, progress is slow.
In addition to it, though, I seem to have developed an anxiety or complex about sex. My libido is never insane anymore, my erections take time to come when I decide masturbate (3-5 min) (though it's rock hard and doesn't falter during masturbation), and most importantly I don't feel worthy of love and sex until I can fuck like a normal person.
It has the unfortunate consequence of making myself aware and dismayed at my shit performance, even if it has improved slightly.
I'm not even having sex and disappointing anyone right now, but still it lives rent-free in my head.
How do I stop thinking about it and eradicate this inferiority complex, so I can pursue improved performance without self-judgement.
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sounds like you have aged
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are you circumcised? circumcision can cause premature ejaculation if the ridged band is removed
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>>34456687
I'm 26.
>>34456694
Not cut. I know the reason behind it and I am working on fixing it, but this whole thing has taken a toll on my sense of self-worth. Normal people don't have to spend months trying to fix themselves so women don't, and I quote, "dread having sex" with them.
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>>34456714
checks out, combined with depression, my morning wood is also close to none, random boners basically not happening either, that started happening after 23+

i had premature ejaculation because i was always mentally too horny and putting my dick in a pussy just pushed me over the edge, but nowadays its just blunt, you will also get comfortable if you sleep with the same women, you both know what you like, whats angles are too sensitive etc., lifehack - changing positions will help you delay imminent cumming, you can even work her with your hand for a bit

it gets better with vitamins like zinc and C, proper sleep, hydratation and taking care of your body in general, but a lot of it is because of mind, of course condoms help too
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>>34456719
Thing is, I acquired PE after LDRing for a while. In other words, my stamina decreased despite knowing her spots and my spots. I wasn't a stallion prior to that, but I could at least control it and thrust for 5 minutes without cumming. That's why I think it can be trained away.
I don't think I'm depressed, I just have anxiety around sex because of bad experiences.
I guess I could try some supplements and see if I feel any different. My diet is okay. Should I visit a doctor before starting any supplements?
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>>34453961
I had a terrible breakup and my dick didn't work for a while, I ended up taking dick pills (viagra, then switched to the imo superior cialis) I got from the internet until I started to get my mojo back and I weened off the pills. The PE, try wearing a condom if that will help, I have a hard time lasting going raw but a dinger helps me last much longer, even if it's a turnoff.
Honestly though your issues sound kind of deep, it might be worth seeing a therapist.
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>>34456732
My PE is with a condom, although I recently discovered (and this will sound like a humblebrag) that the condoms I own are too tight. Like I was close to cumming, rubbered up to try out something not important, and immediate came without any stimulus. So next time I'm in a relationship I'll have bought some looser ones.
I might see someone professional. As I said in the above post, I don't think I have depression or anything.



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