The past month my (now ex) girlfriend started spending a lot of time with a guy she met in a college class. They were going out together drinking until late night and shit like that. Of course when I raised an issue with it I was called jealous by her, I was called jealous by our mutual friends. I was the controlling freak. Yesterday she broke up with me and guess what happened? They're now together. One day after our break up. I was right about everything. Please tell me what to do. How the fuck was everyone on her side? Are there even women who respect boundaries?
>>34455243The advice i want to give you i am not really allowed to give you. But i'm sure you know what i mean.
>>34455286Oh I get it, it's to turn himself into a skeleton.That's mildly funny.
Everyone has to learn the hard way bro. This is part of life almost everyone has had similar experiences.Everyone is on her side because she manipulates the situation. Girls know how to do this because they have been training at it their entire life. They treat their friendships like relationships and they don’t physically fight so these political/reputational struggles are how they battle eachother. You have basically stepped into the octagon with a pro fighter and you never had a chance of not losing
It's time to move on,
Cut those fag "friends" off. You learned your lesson and wont repeat it. I feel like dating anybody in college is an exercise in futility because most girls can just as easily move on and fuck another dude whenever they want. Hit the gym and move on with your life, try meeting new girls. Dont spend too long getting over it or you will end up perpetually single like me.>>34455359Based. Finally, a christian post I can get behind.
This needed to happen to you so you can finally start hating women
>>34455243NEVER FUCKING EVER ignore your gut instinct, anon, it's always correct. Hope you get over this quick and meet someone better.
>>34455243Here are several lessons:>don't let her spend time with her friends, she should prioritize the relationship first.Women value themselves as perceived by their relationship. Next time this happens you set your foot down and if she pushes back, you break up. There is no loyalty.>friends have her backThey aren't your friends. Break contact and make new friends.>called jealousYes? You should be jealous. She was your woman, not his. Next time own it and tell anyone who says that to fuck off.>your girl spends alone time together with ither men and go drinkingRed flags. Next time accompany her or forbid it. This is a typical cheating scenario. And btw, friends don't mean shit. Your relationship is more important than any friendship.What to do now?Go work out at the gym, get your mind off of her, after you are done grieving find someone else. If you are in school, go seek free counseling.
You got outcompeted. Deal with it.
>>34455243The same thing happend to me many years ago (first gf). Fucked me up pretty badly for quite some time, but it got better over the years (believe it or not).Obviously YMMV, but what helped me back then was throwing myself into as many new experiences, hobbies and social circles as possible. I started volunteering and became and EMT. Bought a guitar and took lessons. Got invited by 'weird' new people on a weekend and started rock climbing.All this stuff took my mind of the break up by keeping me busy and in the end made some pretty awesome experiences. What I want to say OP is, now is the time to go out and do awesome shit. Don't waste even a minute thinking of the girl, the dude or your so called 'friends'. If you ever waited for a sign, this is it.
>>34455243>mutual friendsWhat do they have to say after what she has done?
>>34457792how someone will outcompete the shit out with you little bitch and then your mother telling you this, and then i want to see your pussy face
>>34457922Are you OP? You seem really hurt. It's tough out there lil bro, don't let it get into your head. The dude is right. He outcompeted you, it's a fact, she wouldn't have monkey branched if he didn't. Now, you have to deal with it, not in a self destructive way
>>34458050fuck off mate you wouldnt do shit in real life, on the internet is easy to be the tough guy huhi hope this happens to you too and then you get your own niggardly smug ass reply, god will punish you lil bitch
>>34458056>fuck off mate you wouldnt do shit in real life, on the internet is easy to be the tough guy huhI'm not the guy that said you got outcompeted... I just tried comforting you, and that's how you act... I guess you got what you deserved.
>>34458062you are on upping just like him, you little humble bragging nigger
>>34458062lol you tried comforting only your own giant ego, incel
>>34458056>Bwaaaaa>I have a 2 inches dick>My girl found an upgrade mid semester>Bro did in one week what I couldn’t all year>Guess I wasn’t paranoid, just underperforming>But if you tell me that I'm gonna cry
hey OP, found a photo of you and your girl
>>34455243By default people don't care about validating other people's "conspiracy theories". When you raise the issue, how do expect people to react? They are just going to be like "whatever...." They don't want to join in on your vendetta. But it sounds like your ex had more social capital than you. If you were more of an alpha male your mutual friends would've taken your side regardless of evidence. Most people are NPCs who don't think, they just nod and agree with the person with more social proof/capital.Now, either more of your mutual friends are on your side than you think, or perhaps they just stay quiet to stay out of it. Or it's common that friends don't especially like or GAF about you and just tolerate you in their friend group.The socially adept grown-up thing to do is break up with her before she does with you. You can't go through life needing other people's express validation and agreement. You just do what you gotta do, set boundaries and so forth.Another way to repel social validation is to be an incel chud about it, i.e. whining about "why are wahmen like this?" This whole situation isn't about gender, and commonly happens in all permutations of gender.
>>34455243>How the fuck was everyone on her side? The problem isn't her choices. The problem is you have no boundaries. You can't control others. They're going to do what they want to do. You were the one who decided to stay together after she clearly showed you who she was. You have no one to blame but yourself.>Are there even women who respect boundaries?Of course. Don't be an idiot.
>>34455243so like, if that's you in the replies - relax.you aren't gaining anything by fighting a bunch of people online or letting them get to you.now onto my advice - same happened to me. except my girl just did it all behind my back without telling me anything. intentionally.she "upgraded", to a dude with a job and a house, who's 40 and infertile, and moved countries for him. dumbass bitch threw away 5 years of relationship so she could live rent free and not have to work.I believe, that my situation is really bad. And so is yours. But I really think many men, go through the "Big relationship" where they experience a huge betrayal by their woman partner in one way or another. Then they understand - just how disposable they are. they are so disposable. Men are so disposable to women. I am speaking as a man - we are disposable to them. the guy who says women are archons isn't even wrong. He's wrong in that he thinks that NOT having sex is the answer - you definitely SHOULD have sex and just understand that you're dealing with the devil, and therefore not feel morally bound to women's words. but still have sex, get emotional fulfilment, and get everything they try to get from you, while having a way out and being emotionally safe always. and having more options. and the means to get more options. always.1/2
2/2This is the big lesson I think. I really think so. even when I have a gf, I'm not going to let myself run out of options. It's just not going to happen. I'll be the best boy. I will not let myself be alone. I won't be super fucking loyal to the point of not even speaking to other women. that shit is fucking gay. always, always keep yourself sharp, wanted, desired. you will be nothing without your girl. Girls understand this from BIRTH almost. we don't. sadly, we find this out at 20, at 25, at 27, at 30..fuck that shit, fuck those bitches, FUUUUUUUUUUUCK those bitches. I don't feel bad in the fucking SLIGHTEST.If you deal with me - you're dealing with an honest, loving person. but I'll be DAMNED if I let myself cuck myself out of options in the future, and neither should you, and it looks like you have, and what can I saay man it fucking sucks, deal with it now. and move on from it because you can and will get a new girlfriend and you will be desired and DO NOT GIVE UP, THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR MYSERY, WOMEN DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU BEING MISERABLE, YOU ARE NOTHING TO THEM. USE WOMEN. HAVE MULTIPLE OPTIONS. DON'T FEEL BAD TO SKIP. BE DESIREDNEVER EVER FUCKING EEVERNEEEVER LET YOURSELF, BE OUT OF OPTIONS AGAIN. NEVER!!!!!! OPPORTUNISTIC!! WE ARE OPPORTUNISTIC!! WE ARE MEN!!!the WORST ENEMY IS YOURSELFyour woman WANTS you to be only hers but she can EAAAAAAAAASILY GET ANOTHER MAN THE SAME NIGHT SHE CHOOSES TO DO THAT.DOOO NOOOOOOOT REDEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEMDO NOT REDEEM THE CAAAAAAAAARRRDD!!!!!!!!
>>34455243yeah thats how women are, they're whores. now that you know that be someone who whores like and bang a lot of them
