Just got done with my first relationship. Turns out she was cheating on me. So, i blocked her from everywhere and refused to listen to her guilty pleas. Her last messages are just her recording videos of herself crying trying to explain herself with even more lies.Everything she said to me was full of love and sincerity. I truly believed that she loved me, and even right now I can't bring myself to hate her.Everything i do reminds me of her. I used to tell her everything about my day, what was happening, what i was eating, where i was going etc. Life feels empty when i'm not sharing anything with her.The main fear that i feel is that i'll never find someone as compatible as she was with me, that ill never find someone like her. We both agreed that we were perfect for each other. Same tastes, same behaviors, same interests etc. I'm also scared that if she wants to get back together, i'll be the cuck that I am and accept her with open arms. And even if i do that, i know that no one in my life will accept her after what she did to me.Any advice? I know she's the worst person in the world for me, continuing anything with her would be throwing my life further in a ditch. But we really planned our whole future together, and i feel like absolute shit leaving her hanging like this, even though we both know that it was her fault. Feeling incredible isolation right now.
>>34457351It wouldn't have worked out anyway, because you developed emotional dependence on her. A good relationship can only occur between two people who are self-reliant. Each individual has to have their own reason to live, their own motivation and their own fulfillment. In this way, they're able to compliment each other.Someone who considers himself unhappy and incomplete without a partner is admitting that he has nothing to offer, and all of his interactions with other people will be tainted by his own search for fulfillment through others. You can't be selfless and emotionally dependent at the same time, and emotional dependency always leads to selfishness.So, my advice would be to learn how to stand on your own two feet before seeking out another relationship. And obviously, don't go crawling back to this one for all of the reasons above plus the fact that it would make you a cuck with no self respect.
It gets better bro. I suggest doing anything and everything you can to try to get over it as fast as you can. Typically this means getting more girls, focusing on fitness, and throwing yourself into hobbies and activities with other people and male friends. Allow yourself to cry and be a bitch through the weekend and then never look back ever again.
>>34457351>I truly believed that she loved meone of life's quirks is that two contradictory things can be true simultaneously -- she probably did love you while she was cheating on you>my first relationship... I'll never find someone as compatible as she was with me*man who has never eaten anything besides peanut butter sandwiches voice* I'll never be able to find something as good as a peanut butter sandwich noooooooooooooo>I'm also scared that if she wants to get back together, i'll be the cuck that I am and accept her with open arms. Do not do this, no matter what she says or what you say to yourself>Any advice? Eventually you will get angry; don't trust anything that comes from that anger
>>34457412I think you're right. I was doing fine before her as well. I just need to get back on track on how I was before getting into a relationship with her.
>>34457431Thanks man. I really needed to hear this.
>>34457351Relationships can recover from cheating - sometimes. But only if the person who cheats owns what they did and genuinely intends not to repeat it.
>>34457351>I used to tell her everything about my day, what was happening, what i was eating, where i was going etcYou seem like a massive faggot. Also don't get into "the one that got away thinking". It's highly delusional and very unhealthy.
>>34457502hello the fuck no bro. shut up
>>34457502Cheating is fine as long as 2 conditions are met. The person who cheats doesn't feel guilty about it. And the person getting cheated on doesn't find out.
