Romance is sadly not as idealistic as in my chinese cartoons, not like I've ever had one but from what I've seen and been told there's a lot of compromises both parties need to make and extra responsibilites of all kinds. You also need to be mentally mature and have good comunication skills.Is the average person really getting into relationships knowing all this or do they simply hate being alone and just 'wing it'?It's not like I've never had the chance to be in a relationship but when I was a teenager I always though "what was the point?" and "I'm not ready for this now". I was a mess in my 20s and didn't think I was 'worthy' of having someone. Now in my 30s a lot of people my age are married and unhappy, or getting a divorce, or cheating, or completely burned out and aging decades in just a few years from the exhaustion of having to manage an adult life and children of their own.Was I just overthinking it and now the relation-ship has sailed? Or are relationships an actual scam that aren't really worth it if you don't mind being alone, aren't emotionally dependent or don't care about having kids?
>>34457460>Was I just overthinking it and now the relation-ship has sailed?Yes.
teenage relationships are nowhere near as serious, it's basically their first experience so they go into it with no preconceived notions of what being a boyfriend or girlfriend really means except for maybe what their parents and society teach them, ie. be nice to them and don't cheat or whatever. i take it since you mentioned anime your idealized version of a high school romance was actually being completely devoted to your first love and planning as far ahead as marriage or something.normal people in their early and mid 20s just have relationships to have sex and develop a preference for the type of long term partner they're gonna be looking for eventually.you're not supposed to be an absolute expert in relationships out of the womb, but it is also true that a lot of people don't put nearly as much effort as they need to make relationships work regardless of their age and that's why marriages and long term relationships fail so often.i wouldn't say it's over for you yet, but I believe some people are not made to share a life with another person for one reason or another, maybe you're one of the few who realized this before hurting or wasting the time any potential partner.
Relationships are a distraction, to win is to not play that game
