22 years old male graduating college and still a virgin. Going to do a masters next year though.I feel a deep, very painful, suicidal sense that I missed out on certain high school/college experiences. I would say my life is otherwise above average and I am on a good track career/money wise, but the lack of romantic love is tearing me up inside. I think the regret might actually put a permanent dent in my mental health if left untreated. What can I do over the summer and into the next year to try and salvage my situation? Where can I go? Online communities? If I reach 25, 30 etc. without these things there will be no cope, only misery and suicidality. Has anyone recovered from such a situation in modern times? Have you been able to cure this terrible regret?
God, who gives a shit. Just talk to people on campus.
>>34457780Well this is a given...next year I will go out to societies etc. every day, if not multiple times a day...I want more specific advice if possible from people who have been in my situation and salvaged it.
Bump
Sex isn't everything and it won't fix you. Everyone misses out on something. If you let FOMO run the show, you will end up in a much worse situation.
>>34457805Hi. Same problem here: adult virgin suffering from crippling loneliness and maybe some mental illness. I'm just one year older than you and I don't even go to college. My advice: STOP seeking for advice. Yes, you read that right. No, I'm not trying to sabotage you. This is not a crab-in-the-bucket situation. Stop looking for guidance on 4chan, YouTube, Plebbit, whatever. Doing that is just a refined form of procrastination that your brain does to keep you suffering, but without leaving your comfort zone (which would be a lot more mentally taxing, cognitively speaking). If you are a homo sapiens like me you're inherently equipped with the tools to start socializing and eventually make (meaningful) connections, you're literally built it for it. Your upbringing maybe lacked here and there and then you made it to 22 without scoring some pussy or maybe you choose to prioritize other things rather than being social and now you're paying the price for it, I don't know. What I know is that you'll not make satisfying tangible progress in a such nuanced aspect of the human experience that is getting to know people by applying ideas from random people from the internet that don't even know you. Many people here can help a lot with their input about a lot of things, but, if I were you, I'd go offline a bit and just start trying whatever tactics you can come up with(without abandoning reason and common sense), apply them and learn through trial and error. PS.: I didn't proofread this post. There may be many mistakes. Hope it helps anyway.
