Everyone hates me and it's getting to me. I don't even know why is the thing. How am I supposed to figure it out? Even therapists have been annoyed with me and not honest about why when I asked.
i fucking hate you
>>34461030Tell me why?
>>34460856>Buaaa, why nobody likes me?>You have an obligation to like meYou're annoying AF
>>34461103(No offense, I don't want to offend you OP, I'm just saying, nobody has an obligation to like you, not even your parents, they have an obligation to take care of you, your psychologist has a duty to provide a service etc)
>>34461103>>34461110I didn't say anyone has an obligation to like me though? I'm just saying it's clear most people dislike me and I want to know why so I can be better
>>34460856You'll be at ease when you realize that you don't have to give a fuck about people hating you
Next time you go therapist. Just tell her you don't want session but the truth and get out of there. Then, stop bothering. Why do you want people to get close to you. When you stop caring, you will act natural and that will get you some people
>>34461146I've always cared too much, wish I could just shut it off.>>34461154>Why do you want people to get close to youBecause I don't want to be lonely all my life, I want to love and be loved
>>34460856maybe you play an important role in the social ecosystemhttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ
>>34461170>maybe you play an important role in the social ecosystemIdk, i'd rather save that for the actual world. I like doing things that help/improve the world in some way no matter how little
>>34460856>How am I supposed to figure it out? Compare your behavior to others that are liked. I'll tell you why everyone hates me as well. I've noticed a lot of normies "solve" problems" by just ignoring them until everyone "forgets." The issue, is that obviously they never forget, they just pretend to until something else comes up and the cycle repeats. But I can't even pretend, I like to try and actually solve the issue at hand. But for some reason, most people don't understand this and just sees it as me "loving to argue" when really I can't just "ignore" an issue until it'll inevitably come back 10x worse. So I just distance myself from people who are too "problematic" for me.
You could always try reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. The main points are basically:1) Don't criticize other people.2) Avoid arguing with people.3) Praise and express appreciation.4) Smile and greet people when you see them each day.5) Remember people's names.6) Be interested in other people. Ask questions about themselves.7) Be a good listener.8) Put yourself in their shoes and talk about what they want.9) Make people feel important.10) If you do something wrong, apologize and admit your mistake.I recommend reading the book if you want to learn the reasonings behind these guidelines. However, this is still not a fool-proof guide that will work instantly with everybody. You can't make people like you if they don't want to.
>>34462485You're exactly like me.>>34462544I've read that book, I didn't like it because it felt sociopathic. Also he died alone so those relationships meant nothing in the end
>>34460856you must be unbearable to talk toI know criminals and murderers who have some people like them, only unbearable faggots don't
>>34462597I am trying to figure out what makes me unbearable
Nobody loves me.Everybody hates me.I'm going in the gardenAnd I'm gonna eatWorms.
