>schizophrenic mom>100% financially dependent on me >severely ill (asides from the schizophrenia)>have a friend go to her house to convince her to go to a hospital>she eventually goes>complies for two days>pneumonia, cancer, diabetes, heart disease>starts believing her room is bugged and the doctors are conspiring against her>refuses ALL treatment. demands a different type of drugs for the pneumonia instead of what the doctors prescribed per her condition>leaves hospital>still sickso uh. i can either like contact her siblings, maybe they can convince her. or maybe i can get her committed and it might save her life.but heres the problem. her whole life, ive always enabled her because i care about what she thinks of me. so with that, after all of this, id go back and forth between mourning saying my mothers gonna die and also stating to myself that she was never really a person in the first place, her brain, for the whole time ive known her has been nothing more than a pile of goo. but then i was eating dinner one day, and i was staring into my food, and then i recalledher crying, and saying 'my babies'. then i recalled her crying after her mother died. i couldnt swallow what was in my mouth. i spit it out. threw out my food. now ive been wrestling about what i should do, should i let her die or not? what if i try to get her siblings to convince her to. get treated but she resents me, and what if it she doesnt get treated but still resents me too? i appreciate any advice.
>>34461518she's too old. people aren't treated well in those kind of facilities.
>>34461529i dont necessarily have to get her committed. i can ask her siblings to try to convince her but shes VERY particular about being shit talked about, so if i tell her siblings what happened regarding the hospital just as is, and not her version of where the doctors were conspiring against her, she will resent me for that. also this has a lower chance of guaranteeing she complies long enough to get enough medical treatment as well.
>>34461551i don't think she wants to know how much she decayed. maybe she just needed an excuse to get out of there.
>>34461518>so uh. i can either like contact her siblingsDo it. They deserve to know what is happening with her, dude.>what if i try to get her siblings to convince her to. get treated but she resents me, and what if it she doesnt get treated but still resents me too?Dude, you will regret either if you don't do anything, much more than if you do it. Even if she refuses, wouldn't be better knowing you tried your best?Take care of her, embrace her as much as you can, she might die even if she gets treated, but at least she will know you loved her, even if she resents you a little bit and act aggressively, at least she will know
>>34461518Your mother's crime was mental sickness which she did not ask for and did not wish for, and did not choose.Once upon a time when she was less mentally ill, less sick, when she was younger, she was in a hospital. Her stomach round and large, pregnant, with you in her womb. And she would pet her stomach just to feel you kick and move around. She decided she was going to love you before you were born, as all mothers do. And she endured 9 months of pain and a day and night of extreme pain to deliver you. Held you in her shaking arms, tears in her eyes "My boy. My sweet baby boy."And she clothed you, nursed you, treasured you, named you. Your name you have, who gave you that name? You know who gave you that name. She gave you a name, so how about you give her a chance? Give her your time? Give her your love. Do not condemn her to death just because her mind betrayed her. She couldn't help that.
>should i let my mom dieI don't advise that
>>34461658good advice, now OP knows exactly what to do
>>34461518You sound like a horrible person and I hope a horde of Tyrones rapes you in prison.
>>34461518You'll never forgive yourself if you don't try to save her. And she didn't ask to have schizophrenia.Contact her siblings first, but if they can't persuade her to have treatment, this is exactly the kind of situation where having her committed is something you should consider: she's a serious danger to herself.
