I lost my virginity at age 12 in a dirty brothel to an adult woman who I suspect was a sex slave. I'm 33 now and I haven't had sex in 10 years and I cannot preform without anti anxiety medications. Nor do I want to have sex. I jerk off once or twice per week.I am dating a woman and she is beginning to question why I dont want to have sex with her. Instead we cuddle and kiss which I enjoy but I don't like it when she touches my dick. Realistically if I started going to therapy or found a sex councillor how many years would it take to get over this and be normal again, or is it too hardwired in my brain and I am now stuck like this? We have had two arguments over sex and I can see it in her face that she is offended by me not wanting to have sex with her and I also know the relationship cannot last like this. I didn't want to date either I just wanted to be friends because I knew this would be a problem.
>>34470081have you told her what happened to you?
>>34470090Yeah she wanted to try and help but it just isn't working
>>34470104i don't know. you don't want to have sex and yet you masturbate. maybe it's not pathological, but about her.
>>34470081>"Realistically if I started going to therapy or found a sex councillor how many years would it take to get over this and be normal again"It gets 1 day longer for every day you put it off.Search therapy services in your area - its 1 google search.Click the top few sites and find the email address on the page, probably at the bottom.Send the same email body describing what you you are stuggling with and what you want help to achieve in 2-4 sentences to those emails, they will guide you through the rest.
>>34470104Maybe you can explain it to her again. She might not have taken it seriously enough last time.That you haven't been able to have sex in years, and it isn't about her.>>34470121That's not the same anon. OP didn't say he didn't feel sexual needs, but that the idea of having sex with someone repels him.>>34470924And I can only agree with this. It won't be an easy process but if you deal with those emotions and trauma you will live freer.In your OP you asked how long it will realistically take to heal from this, this is something no one can know.But I can only encourage you to start as well.You will also need to take care of your feelings in this relationship, if you feel she keep pressing you, it might make this recovery harder.Best of wishes to you.
>>34470081That is messed up with that sex slave. I hope you have some compassion for her (not asking you to wife her). She seems keen to have sex with you and is not a sex slave, this girl you are with that is. >>34470993This too
>>34470081I’m the same way, idk but I hope there’s hope for it
>>34470081>I lost my virginity at age 12 in a dirty brothel to an adult woman who I suspect was a sex slavewhat how
>>34470121this isn't the same because the brain pretty much already separates sexual desire and actual sexual acts with a other person. it has to be a subconscious issue involving the trauma or thoight process OP has while horny. I beat off like 3x a week at least and I'm a manhoe, but I have plenty of repressed sexual trauma too that makes it hard for me to face people. some days I feel so uncomfortable from touch that even if one of my fem friends were to touch my arm, I'd get tensed up muscles throughout my entire body. can't really talk about it either with most people, even those I trust because male trauma is treated as a minor inconvenience at best. it's not fun either to have it pop up during the act, but you can train yourself to have it happen less. didn't wanna blackpill btw, mostly just wanted to say you aren't alone OP.
>>34471023>what howI would guess he inserted his benis into her vagene, I believe that's the usual method.anon was asking for help and advice, not an opportunity to fuel your fantasies
>>34470081Sounds like larp, but if real how did you end up in that brothel
Did you mean 22, cuz how do you end up in a brothel as a 12vie (daz illegal)
