How did you celebrate your 30th birthday? I recently broke up with my girlfriend. My 30th is coming up and I'm going to spend it with my grandmas and mom. I'm doing very well financially, but have no social life. It's pathetic and embarrassing. It's making me depressed as fuck.
>>34470580nothing, it was just like every other day, I spent it on my room, your birthday will be better than mine
>>34470587I'm sorry to hear that. Have things improved for you since then?
>>34470580My 35th is coming up in a couple weeks, I'm gonna get drunk at a random music show. I spend most birthdays alone because they generally depress me. Most people like to have fun on their birthday but for me they've always been just a day for introspection and feeling bad. I have friends but that's just how it goes.>but have no social lifeI'm sure you've heard it all before but if you live in or near a city there's probably events that cater to your interests. A board game store that has events or lets you just show up and game with people, a slam poetry community, music shows, small art galleries, book club etc. Even if you just have online friends that you game with or something, you could get them all together in a VC to play some shit. That would be a super fun birthday. Online friends are real friends.Anyway sorry you're feeling down, definitely been there
>>34470580It was only 4 years ago but I don't even remember. Maybe got food.
>>34470604not yet, but there's only some things that need to be fixed now, then my next birthday will be better.Hope you have a good birthday anon
>>34470606Thanks, that's good advice.
Just ate junk food like every other day. Had a quarterlife crisis few months before that because I'm a stereotypical bitter loser. So it was just a solidifying date for a lot of opportunities to be closed forever.
>>34470727> Quarterlife crisisExpect to live to 120?Don't you feel like making radical changes in your life if you're so unhappy? Just go begpacking in a different country or something?
>>34470580I stopped celebrating them years ago. Only reason I even know they've come is because other people bring it up, but I haven't actually done a birthday bash or anything special since I was a kid, and even then I never actually had friends to invite out, much less had someone else to plan something for me. Maybe it's a defense mechanism, the less I expect of others, the less I ask for, the less I even desire, the less chance I can be hurt. It's not nice, and in reality I'd love if someone wanted to give me a special day unprompted, but that's not how things have gone. Either ignore the day and let it pass or set something special up for yourself, even if it's alone. Honestly it's not lame at all to spend it with your family; assuming you have a good enough relationship then they matter more than anyone else anyway and that time with them is valuable. That's special enough to me.
>>34470580alone in my room crying because I found out my then fiancee had an affair and only used me for betabux.Am 34 now and it isn't any better.
There's nothing wrong with a birthday with the family like >>34470755 stated.Just so something nice/fun with other(s).Every year I just have friends over and some family and we hang out. For the last 5 years my wife has gotten eggrolls from her hmong coworker for the party.
>>34470580Get good food
>>34470580I just got dinner at my favorite restaurant with my family. Its just what I do every year
>>34471592>There's nothing wrong with a birthday with the family like >>34470755 stated.It's not like your family is going to say no to your birthday. So the only people you can get to come to your birthday are people who can't say no.Out of 7 billion people no one wants to spend 2 hours with you. You spent 30 years on Earth and you can't make a human connection. We are literally made by evolution as social creatures but we live in prisons of our own making.
>>34471821wfh changes thingsand the only men who want to be my friend are gay
>>34470734NtaA backpacking trip isn't life changing you see some new scenery, feel homeless, and put a lot of wear and tear on your knees but nothing is different
>>34470587>nothing, it was just like every other day, I spent it on my room, your birthday will be better than mineSame
>>34470580Legit, I like to play a game where I go to the birthday card section at any store and look at the ones for turning 30. They're ALL depressing. Every single one of them is about how you're old and ruined now, and that there's no turning back time, and that your body now aches everywhere and it's just so so funny how stupidly sad these cards are.You should celebrate your birthday by gettin yourself a card that is not mean like those. Get a pack of googly eyes and stick them to statues and public infrastructure.
>>34470580I was taken out to a casino to eat at the buffet by some friends, and that weekend we had a backyard bonfire and lots of people showed up with my favorite beer. I don't really remember much except that.I celebrated my 50th birthday by not telling anybody at work it was my birthday, then I went home like any other day. My dad took me out that weekend and bought me a big steak, but the restaurant fucked up the seasoning. My dad said I should ask for them to remake it, but I didn't want to wait so I just dealt with it.
>>34470580Think just a drinks with a few friends, except other people were buying. This was part of the <50% of birthdays I actually celebrated in any meaningful fashion.Most single people over a certain age don't do much for theirs unless they proactively rally people for it. So not having a social life on this particular day doesn't set you apart from a lot of people.The fact that you're hanging out with family for it means you're doing more than I did this year. My last couple were literally just having an excuse to splurge on a nice takeout meal for myself.Don't put too much pressure on yourself to have a big party or anything, just have a pleasant day with an excuse for celebrating yourself. Your Grandmas and your Mom won't always be around, so take this birthday as an opportunity to have a nice day with them.Also happy birthday, OP.
I went to work. Most likely it was a good day.
>>34473517Thank you, you're very kind
>>34470734It costs money, is stressful and you need basic language skills of that place. I can't do it with my anxiety and autism. Plus I'm ugly. Womb to tomb.
I spent it with my bf. I had the cabin booked when I was still single. I was going to bring a fling there or just go alone and ruminate. But I met my man and had a nice trip. Still together. Sorry about your breakup. I advise you to keep family close during this period. I regret isolating back when I was single and depressed. Life will get better
>>34472195Correct. I enjoyed walking and hiking in the past, but that won't change a thing once it's over and I have to return to my depressive shithole fake country. It's all genetics that determine how you'll get treated and how you'll respond. Epiphanies and personality change is fiction.
>>34474514Whore.
>>34474525You jelly with a fat belly
>>34470580Enjoy your time with your family. It sounds nice. This year can just be spent celebrating the ones who keep you grounded.
