how do you actually hurt a man who's not only given up on you but life itself. he's depressed and that doesn't excuse why he treats me like shit. he's never around. we live two cities apart but meet once in a while. you can say it's a hybrid of ldr and irl. i don't think he truly loves me. and i don't love him either. this relationship is pure convenience bc he has cluster b disorder like me.but im done. i tried breaking up with him and he's always like if that's what you want? no, what I want and need from you is change. to show up for me. but he never does. and he already said he wanted to break up with me through a voice call. i knew he was crying through it and said I'm his everything blah blah but how can that even be true if he treats me like shit and we haven't had sex in six months but still goons and lies to me about it?would saying i never actually loved him hurt him? what does it take to devastate a man? and don't say cheat on him bc I find sex to be repulsive unless I find the guy attractive. his body is attractive just have a chud face. i guess. his dick is above average than any guy i met.i know im horrible for asking what really truly crushes a man, or is he someone I can't hurt anymore cos he's clocked out? I want him to suffer one last time before we're out of each others' lives. if I said I was gonna kill myself. do you think he'll a damn? god I don't know anymore just someone please guide me.
>>34472742Men treat everybody like shit when life isn't going the way they expect. Society demands a lot from men. Don't take it personal, if anything, he trusts you so he feels safe to show you his ugly side.However, you want to feel codependent. What you ask is what society tells men to never be. He wants to be a great man, you're dragging him down. What you want out of a man is what everyone defines as a shitty weak man.Maybe try to grow up and make something out of yourself, then you will understand what men have to go through and find someone you can work with, not have him work for you.
>>34472742Negativity can only fuel negativity. If you want more positivity in your life, or from his behavior, then you should try showing him some positivity and compassion instead of dwelling on your resentment. There's no grounds for accusing anyone else of being uncaring while you're actively contemplating ways to harm others. No one deserves good until they've made themselves good, so focus on yourself first and lead by example.
Don't hurt him, just end things. You're desiring something he's made it very apparent that he's unable to give you. Let go, move on. There's no point in causing unnecessary pain, even if you feel like you've been wronged.
>>34472788>However, you want to feel codependent. What you ask is what society tells men to never be. He wants to be a great man, you're dragging him down. What you want out of a man is what everyone defines as a shitty weak man.Pretty much this. The guaranteed way to lose a woman is to give her too much of your attention, despite what she claims she wants.
>>34472798I see, thank you. This is really eye opening. I wrote this without thinking and was running on pure resentment. We always fight and also told each other we feel like we hate each other. Maybe I should start by thinking him closing off is because of society and not to take it personally. He really cares for some odd reason what society thinks of him so much so he's a closeted bisexual. I'm also his first girlfriend. I can't help but think maybe he'd be happier with someone that's a normie but he tells me he doesn't want a normie gf, he's fine with me. I think the ultimate choice is just to accept who he is and if we both cannot actually accept and forgive then other people might teach us how to.The dating market is just really really bad that we both don't wanna try anymore idk this is just a guess Thanks for talking me out of seeking revenge or hurting him more. The least I can do is try to. understand him before it ends. It's just frustrating when he won't tell me anything that bothers him even if I know there is. And if it's not me then what? I give up.
>>34472742Can't break what's already broken, kekAnyway get a life you loser. Instead of trying to kick someone who's already down, give the poor dude a break and fix your own head before entering another relationship so you don't just prey on some other poor sod. You're not looking for "love", you're looking for someone to stroke your vapid ego.
>>34472742she's dead isn't she ?
>>34472742Aint gonna read allat OP but I'm sorry that you got treated like shit and for your own mental health don't try to hurt someone who is obviously already hurting himself all the time. Be better
