I've felt like I might be a lesbian for most of my life, but I was raised in a religious family and I've struggled to try to be straight. I've had boyfriends, I was honest with them that dating them was an experimental sort of thing to try to get myself to like men and they accepted it.My latest bf I broke up with after a year of dating. He said he has feelings for me, he wants to get married.I really like hanging out with him, but I don't feel the romantic connection and I felt like it would be wrong to try moving things forward if I don't feel that. I feel kind of guilty about it now, like I made a big mistake. I keep thinking maybe I should talk to him again, but doing that also feels like it would be wrong.
You shouldn't feel beholden to him, or like you owe him, out of guilt. You both want different things in life, which will inevitably lead to a miserable marriage even if you do apologize and resolve. You live your life. He lives his. And you can both find peace elsewhere.
>>34475641You just need to meet the man who gets your chemistry going
>>34475641There's no harm in talking to him, so long as you're completely honest about how you feel and what your intentions are.
>>34475641They are all thieves. Are you a thief?
>women and their hormonesthe postsad, many such cases
>>34475641You can't "fix" being a lesbian. You're a lesbian. You like women. You won't be able to learn to like guys, or get rid of the feelings, or anything like that. You need to accept that you're a lesbian.
what a negative post.you can "fix" being a lesbian. you infact, can fix everything. you can like whatever the fuck you want. you will be able to learn whatever the fuck you want. you dont need to accept anything.creation is finished and, it is good.mind over matter. the mind and your brain are malleable. living means learning, all the time. it is an ongoing process.OP probably has some ying/yang imbalances in her body. or maybe some parasite that makes her think that shes lesbian but really isnt. maybe take a deworming regimen and compare how you feel after that. it is ok and you dont have to be ashamed of anything. i can bet with you OP, that you are infact, going to feel better at least bodily wise.
>>34476648Being a lesbian isn't something to fix, it's part of who you are. If she's a lesbian, trying to bury who she is under a bunch of delusions and misguided efforts to change aren't going to do anything but ruin her life.
>>34475641Go to >>>/lgbt/
>>34476717There's no such thing as lesbianism There's no such thing as homosexuality There's no such thing as bisexuality There's not even such a thing as heterosexuality Sexuality isn't a personality and people who identify as one (most of the always LGBT) are those with no sense of self. They cling to the sexual identity because they do not have anything besides that. It's a place holder identity for an empty void, and it sticks because they happen to have a fetish for the female or male body. There is only man and woman and love. No need for weird identities. If OP wants to go chase women, she can, but it won't make her happy. Anyone who has saw real life lesbians in person who try to pair bond and marry are the furthest thing from happy. If they're not physically abusing each other viciously in private, they're shouting and screaming at each other in public. Last two lesbians who were married I saw were both morbidly obese, mentally ill, and they sucked the life out of each other so much one of them got a cortisol induced tumor, yes so much stress one of them got cancer and died. But by all means go ahead and sell OP a fake happy ever after promise to virtue signal
>>34475641Have you actually had sex with a woman? Then you really don't know, do you?
>>34476717lmao EVERY lesbian can be fixed with a good dicking. Homosexuality is just a lil mental illness.
if you're truly homosexual, you're being cruel by dating these men. it's the inverse of when a male celebrity comes out as gay, everyone pretends that's swell and nice, but we're all silently wondering '...what about his wife, then?'these men aren't your experiments or your she-beards, they want love and sex from you. presumably you're an adult now, you can make your own decisions regardless of your religious upbringing.https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6cqfhk?start=2315(38:35 if the link doesn't work)listen to this lady claiming the Lord saved her from being a lesbian. what would you tell her?
OP, you need to talk to some other LGBT people about this. You're deeply traumatized by your religious upbringing and its going to hurt you in the long term if you can't make peace with the fact that you're a lesbian.
>>34479682Oh no such trauma she had to go to a boring church so traumatic ahhhh so traumatic
>>34479682wow anon, you are totally not glowing and gaslighting and trying OP to join the cult, to join the crab in a bucket situation.i very much hope you are being sarcastic
>>34479738It is 100% traumatic to spend the most formative years of your life being told that you're evil and wrong for feelings you can't help having. The desire to be "normal" and the stress of being different in spite of trying lead to exactly the frustration OP shares.>>34479744I think OP should talk to people who have lived similar upbringings to hers, who had similar problems of being queer in an unaccepting environment, and hear their stories before she tries to force herself to live one way or another.
>>34479757>It is 100% traumatic to spend the most formative years of your life being told that you're evil and wrong for feelings you can't help having. The desire to be "normal" and the stress of being different in spite of trying lead to exactly the frustration OP shares.No it's not. That's called being parented, even non religious parents tell their kids that they're wrong because children are boundary breaking narcissistic little imps that don't behave by default until parents condition them into being socially adjusted. That isn't trauma that's called real life. Grow the fuck up and stop using the word "trauma" for things that aren't traumatic. Come back to me and talk about trauma when you were 5 and had to try to stop your parent from killing your brother with a hammer. Or being 7 and screaming bloody murder because your dad tried to hang himself in front of you. You are presumably some middle class idiot who thinks they know what trauma is because being told to sit down in some boring church to listen to gospel was suffering relative to your easy sheltered life.
>>34476591Being a lesbian is not a good thing. And yes, you can completely change the fact that your sexuality does not serve a reproductive purpose and move toward a wholesome sexuality that is in harmony with human nature. Everyone has a natural inclination toward reproduction, and homosexuality is, at best, an obstacle to fulfilling the sexual desire to find a partner and have children. Faggots are good for nothing but satisfying their own selfish desires.
>>34479933>Faggots are good for nothing but satisfying their own selfish desires.Well said. This is why the "LGBTQ" community has an extremely disproportionate number of people with personality disorders, with a high trend of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It's because being LGBT is about selfish hedonic lifestyle, a bloated identity predicated on nothing except labels (which means they don't need to have any merit to their personality, just a demand for respect for nothing). And of course, the big fat juicy victimhood status that comes out of it. Which is now a recognized trait of those in the dark triad personality group (personality disorders), people on the psychopathic spectrum will use victimhood to signal virtue. And identifying as a LGBT type is the quickest way to accomplish that. That's why these idiots will honestly sit there and say they were "traumatized" all because they had to go to church because Mom and dad said so. The LGBT identity and ideology did not exist in the past century and did not exist for 300,000 years of modern humanity. It is a purely modern cultural hysteria that exists nowhere else except primarily in first world western countries where the inhabitants have no fights for survival, no real problems. Just ego and boredom.
