Hello,Me and my girlfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for around 5 months. In this time we have only meet twice. Each time that we have meet we have been together for around 4 days. But we talk regularly over Facetime.The only issue I have is that she has trust issues in men. This stems from her father who cheated on her mother and divorced her. She has said that because of the handful of times we have meet, she will need a little bit of time to fully trust me after marriage. I am a bit uncomfortable with this and trying to understand if this is normal because I am worried about what happens if she doesn't trust me after marriage.She has asked me many times in the relationship if I promise that I will never cheat on her and I am tired of reassuring her. She eventually apologizes and says she was being immature, but it is annoying.For example I found some cute videos on TikTok that I wanted to send to her. I downloaded two videos and I wanted to only send one but accidently sent two. I deleted the message and resent just the one video. She got scared when she saw the deleted message and got worried that I had mean to send it to another girl.I believe if I get married to her it can go one of two ways:1) First, is that overtime she sees that I am a good person and builds up the trust needed in a healthy marriage.2) Second, she always doubts me and goes behind my back to seek validation from other men (cheats on me sexually or becomes too personal with other men)I saw her phone password and checked her messages in the past and didnt find anything suspicious so I don't believe she is projecting her desires to cheat onto me.What do you think I should do? I don't think its reasonable to blindly trust someone before marriage but at the same time I don't want to constantly be bothered by accusations if I get married. Trying to see if this is normal behavior or not.
>>34475841*4 months not 5. I know that doesn't help but wanted to be accurate
>>34475841It is absolutely 100% normal that she doesn't yet trust you when you've only been together for 8 days. (Long distance means you're not together the rest of the time). You need to spend a lot more time physically with her if you want her to feel like she really knows you.
>>34475841you taking issue with the fact she has trust issues with men is laughable. every woman has a story and it's always about a man. your "relationship" isn't gonna last lol stop pretending like you're gonna get married
>>34476050also u literally snooped through her phone. no wonder she doesn't trust shit
>>34475841>I saw her phone password and checked her messages in the pastWhy exactly should she trust you when you do things like this?
>>34476057>>34476112She doesn't know that I checked her phone. Men always need to be careful
>>34476135>She doesn't know that I checked her phone.Perhaps she senses that you're the kind of person who does things like this? The point is, you're NOT trustworthy. So, when she treats you as someone who isn't trustworthy, that's perceptive, rational behaviour on her part. If you stop doing shit like this, maybe you will deserve to be trusted, but right now you don't.>Men always need to be carefulBullshit. Careful is one thing; spying on someone is something else entirely. And why should she trust you when you don't trust her?
>>34475841women obsessed with this usually are cheating on you and projecting. If you want to try and make it work you could just be a good little long distance cuck and cage your cock for her
>>34475841you should start hitting her if she is getting annoying again
>>34475841you are a fucking blabberer if you are not getting married in a church program you're wasting your time and that woman is trying to lead the relationship its going to go down until she finds her place
