I am really trying to put porn down for good. However, I don't want to completely cripple my sexuality. I just don't know how to properly handle NOT being able to look at naked women on a whim. Before, I was definitely a super coomer and would just consume porn whenever I felt like it. Now I haven't looked at hard core porno in about 3 weeks. I feel... fine. But I definitely get insane cravings to just go to porn sites. So what is the middle ground between full blown porn coomer abuse and healthy sexuality? As a male this feels even worse because my brain is like "LOOK AT NAKED WOMEN!!!" and I feel like that would just roast my brain. It was even worse when I was full bore cooming. I hate looking at porn featuring women getting pissed on and I'd do it anyway because its what caused me to ejaculate the hardest. I never liked that porn will warp what you are into sexually. So me, a person that hates watching women getting pissed on, was watching women getting pissed on. Unfortunate. Anyway, what can I do? I was actually considering like maybe looking at porn SUPER OCCASIONALLY will be okay. But I think that is similar to saying "Oh, let me take this bump of fentanyl occasionally. It sounds retarded when I frame it that way.
>>34476645>So what is the middle ground between full blown porn coomer abuse and healthy sexuality?get a gf, your body was literally made for that, you will always crave women.
>>34476684I'd love to get a GF but that is a bit of an issue for me unfortunately. One I have been trying to fix.
>>34476645>>34476700be mindful when you get a craving, that craving to look at porn was caused by the porn itself, it's like a heroin addict that crave to put a needle on his arm, people that are non addicts don't feel that.You need to be mindful, "yeah, this craving I'm having, it was caused by the last porn session". You will be training your brain to ignore the crave and eventually train it to not crave it anymore.The worst thing is that we think we are losing something, that we need it, but we don't. We want real experiences.Hope that helps.
>>34476645there are browser add ons and apps to block certain sites for time wasting StayFocused, Freedom, LeechBlock etc. It's really a time wasting problem when you look at it objectively and not focus on the porno coomer aspect.
>>34476645i'm in the same boat dude, just with a different fetish. previously when i've had longer streaks, it was because i was fapping WITHOUT porn every three or four days. not gonna lie, it is difficult to use your imagination at first but it is for sure possible. start by thinking about your fetish -- but imagine yourself having sex WITH someone in your head, according to the fetish scenario. you're used to viewing sex as a third party, the goal is to self-insert as a participant in the act.>maybe looking at porn occasionally will be okay>like fentanylcorrect, for an addict "just one peek" will 100% turn into a binge. not worth it.there's some literature that can help. "easypeasy" method is a newer one, there's also SAA's green book which is free to view on their website. i just rejoined their program, part of the appeal is the community aspect. even though we're all in the pervert club, everyone in there knows what its like to struggle with porn abuse. the 12 step program offers tools that can help define and deal with your version of the addiction. i.e. the three circles, etc.>>34477102the problem is many apps and extensions are useless because they can be disabled without effort. or the UI is bad, there's a paywall, or there's a 4 hour lecture every time you open the app.>cold turkey blockerthe best for desktop. you can make infinite lists of infinite sites and lock each block behind a string of 1000 letters and numbers. it will only unlock if you type the code exactly, which takes about 20 minutes. and you can change the lock settings to delete your typing if you leave the window, or make a mistake.unfortunately phone apps are garbage for the above reasons. i am looking into getting a sponsor with my group, so i can set up google family link.
>>34476645>>34478209easypeasy is good, I recommend.
>>34476645Wow have you never heard of actually having sex with a woman you love? Zamn!
>>34478209>>34478273OP here. I actually read easypeasy before and unfortunately it didn't work for me. Mostly because I got to the end and the author basically said "Good. Now just quit it lmao." and it actually fucked me up more because I felt ripped off.
>>34476645I am not an expert but I will give my advice>Find a hobbyI am convinced that a large percentage of men who are addicted to porn are ultimately bored. When I was learning 3D modeling, a time when I was much more uncaring about how often I masturbated, I would sometimes forget to eat and had no care for masturbation when I spent days on a project>Don't count the days and care more about the journeyYeah, try to eliminate masturbation and porn usage entirely, but don't make it a focus on how many days you go without it. As in, don't put yourself in a mindset where you go a month without gooning and you eventually cave in and fall into a depressed state where you think "a whole month is wasted so what is wrong if I do it the next day?">Talk to a friend about itI made promises to my friends to not do things and having someone else try to hold you accountable really does motivate you more
>>34479781Why eliminate masturbation though? I can understand trying not to use porn. I'd probably go insane without masturbation. Mostly because I have been perpetually womanless my whole life. Not saying I'd only use women for sex. But I firmly believe that energy can't be transmuted. So any sexual energy or feeling can only be released via a sexual action of some sort. So obviously there aren't a whole lot of outlets for sex besides sex and masturbation.
>>34479807not him, but for me it's a choice. I am more energetic, more social and flirty if I don't masturbate. It's fine if you want to masturbate, I'm not against it, I just feel much better without.
