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im 23 male autistic live in us pulled out of kindergarden homeschooled for the rest of my childhood parents didnt really teach me anything pretty much just had me work off of workbooks or have me watch a random documentary i mostly spend my days playing vidya or watching videos on the internet never learned any social skills most interactions i have never go anywhere barely leave the house except for groceries and work i work a dead end job as a dishwasher i have no friends my biggest ambition is to be in a romantic relationship with a woman which is just a pipe dream to me at this point i have no idea what im gonna do with my life am i fucked?
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You Holy shit are you me? With the ending of your paragraph at least. Never been homeschooled. I have been thinking I'm fucked for years
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learn how to write you massive retard
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>>34477396
DUDE youre me 1:1 but im not diagnosed and honestly would rather not be diagnosed. yeah my parents are pretty stupid but i know my fate is my own at this point, but im just starting with a massive disadvantage. i know i've gotta have a career goal and make that goal my life and try to fight the worst negative self talk imaginable. cause really, if i can be successful in life then none of this shit would bother me ( i was in the special chair until 4th grade when i was homeschooled)
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>>34477396
>>34477396
>>34477396
Maybe you were diagnosed autistic because you were raised into those patterns of behaviour?
Literally just force yourself into irl social settings. Dont sweat about doing anything for the first year, just go out as much as possible with as much people as possible and simply focus on watching and listening. Listening is super important.

You can be the quiet nice guy while you learn, people dont mind. It sounds scary, but youll be fine, no one can do anything that lasts to you, and youre very young and in the perfect age to learn. Your social life starts now! Enjoy
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>>34477396
Wow. You're like me too. Except my parents were mentally ill and my mom joined a cult. My parents mostly focused on "the Bible" and "Bible history" as actual subjects in school. Lmao. She'd make me watch YouTube videos about history. All my biology or science or math books were made by religious people. I also had a terrible math education and basically didn't do any school for the last 2 years of highschool.

My advice for you is to ignore your family or leave if they are not supportive or if they make your life miserable. Independence is good to have. If you don't hate your parents, focus on working or going to school or getting a trade. Fix your life basics if they're not completed. (Driver's license, a job, GED). Start working if you're not doing that already. And work hard. If you really want to fix your life. You can do it.

If you don't want to do hard labor. Do cyber security or try to become a data scientist. Make sure to do community college first the first 2 years if you want your bachelor's. If you can get a trade then get a trade. Or just work at an automotive factory or whatever. The army will take you too. (Air Force is better). Fire department is good too. You can even work at Walmart, get promoted as a supervisor and make $21 an hour. That's not great but if you're working 50-60 hours a week it's decent money. I know people who do that.

Whatever path you chose. Just don't get distracted and just do it. You won't starve. Just try to find enjoyment in life with other people and try to strive for a goal. Maybe buying a house or having a family? Pretty normie things. Or you could try to save up a bunch of money and buy some land and live in the woods. Would be nice if you did that with a remote job.

Don't get a DUI, don't ruin your life. Go outside, go fishing. Get a therapist, get religious. Or get some irl friends. Get into cars. Or talk to chatgpt. Just get something to take the edge off after working really hard. That's my advice.
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>>34478691
i remember being so insanely frustrated too as a kid when most of what they were teaching me were bible lessons. and yet my mom doesnt even know long division
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>>34478772
A religious fanatic is a fanatic about everything except about being a good person.

My parents would always hate "worldly people". Outsiders. They never talked to their neighbors or did anything. They never left the house unless they had to get food or go to church. They were obsessed with politics, religious preachers, and TV. My parents would watch "it's supernatural" and other prosperity gospel preachers and Zionist preachers. My mom even forced me to watch Robert Morris' dvd series about tithing. I was only 10.

Now my mom joined a cult and my dad and my mother go to different churches. My parents brains are melting and they're probably going to get dementia. Literally watch AI videos on YouTube for most of their free time. Or political videos. My mom wants me to watch "ai baby trump" videos with her on YouTube. It's just absolute filth. American Christianity is the worship of money and comfort. Evil stuff.
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>>34478691
for what its worth this is all prolly the most solid and comprehensive advice ive gotten from anyone ever irl or online though im just curious where would yall suggest i find social opportunities that i dont have to go through friends/family or work for? also i am thinking about studying for a comptia certification and finding an it job if that helps
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>>34479388
Thanks for the compliment. I actually think social opportunities through your friends and family would be a great choice! It is a safer and familiar space.

However, if you want other opportunities, communities also work. Hobby related work well, tho you may have to give it some time before you get to know people there outside of the specific context. Anything from surfing to rock climbing to chess to dancing to bird watching.
Find out a hobby one of your friends does, join him, and get to know his/the people there.

My personal social growth came by going to uni and going partying + day drinking with people there. Before uni I was a total social outcast, now I talk to people from every course on campus. I took the exact path I described of starting by just watching and listening. You learn eventually how to behave socially. It may begin slow and you may struggle to see progress at first (and you will embarass yourself at least once believe me), but when you start getting it, you really start getting it. The growth only accelerates from there. Patience and optimism are crucial! Always stay positive!



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