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when I was 18 my parents started to drift apart and I asked my mom why she hates my dad to which she'd say that its so evil that she cant tell me
finally at 24 years old she told me that he cheated on her with another woman
I know she is the victim in all this but like, why couldnt she just say that? im an adult, not a child to coddle
why would you just not say?
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shame, obviously
now delete your retarded thread
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>>34478613
Not retarded. First thread I've read here in a while that doesn't sound made up. Sorry you went through that op!
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>>34478680
I feel more blindsided than anything
I thought she hated him cuz he was like depressed lol
she also told me he had depression because of porn addiction ??
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>>34478569
hey man when I was 15 I caught my mom sucking another man's dick while my (whoremonger alcoholic) father was at work.
Like who cares faggot
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>>34478694
Its not that its just I cant help but feel like it was infantilizing to not tell me and instead use a phrase like 'its so evil I cant tell you'
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>>34478699
your mother wanted you to have good mental health and a father figure even if hes abusive, bless your mother
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>>34478699
Cheating just tells her for a fact the dad doesn't love mom.

Plus if while together the mom says no porn and chooses that over her then clearly he doesn't love her.
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>>34478707
That's not a father figure. That's a pathetic loser.

Mom should divorce and get with a real man who loves her.
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>>34478707
except he made him move out and go to some rehab center a whole state away
as I said before, I thought she hated him for being depressed
>>34478711
cheating is bad but I didnt know he cheated cuz I was left in the dark
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>>34478569
And what was it about her that drove him to another women?
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>>34478715
It is good for development to have a stable upbringing. As you get older you can reflect on what bad you were luckily spared from.
Parents who yell at eachother and expose children to that are shitty. A child coming into the world exposed to that type of environment will offten just accept that those types of things happen instead of growing up to not bend to that type of life.
Children shouldn't have to deal with their parents' problems.
OP at 18 was just being into his adult life and his mom wanted him to focus on his own life.
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>>34478940
i dunno maybe the free job she gave him and being a loyal wife?
>>34478983
from my perspective my father just became depressed one day and my mom was upset at him for being depressed, knowing it was his fault all along changes everything
and im an adult not a child to coddle
unrelated but I visited a friend and she asked me if I did anything bad or drank anything bad
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>>34478694
Kek

Anyway op why didn't you go ask your dad? Did he ditch you? That says more about him than the cheating.

And yeah your mum was overdramatic and pussying out and not handling it well. She shoulda gave it to ya straight
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>>34481358
because he also said 'its so evil i cant even say'
honestly i think he condescends me more than me
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>>34482392
more than her*
sorry its morning



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