i'm completely vanilla with my boyfriend sexually (never been with anyone else) but truthfully i have a lot of weird sexual interests and fetishes, what do?he's experienced unlike me, so he's had gf's before and had sex with girls before me. however, idk how to explain this, but he doesn't seem very sexually curious/doesn't seem to like trying new things? so it puts me into a weird spot, because being the woman *and* the inexperienced one, i feel like i shouldn't be the one suggesting sexual activities, like i expected he'd be doing that. i accept the vanilla sex and am fine with it, but i guess i am a bit sad that he seems to 100% accept it and not want to try things with me. i am shy, and even though we've had sex, i am still embarrassed by sex and sexual topics and have a hard time talking about basically anything related to sex with him. but yeah i do feel like i may have a somewhat warped sexuality because when i was a bit too young i got into reading hentai doujins.about my fetishes: for example, pretty often i read hardcore erotica about facefucking and stuff like that, or rape fantasies and being "used". and again i was a virgin and never done anything sexual or been with anyone before my bf, so i've never tried anything like this with anyone. it just feels strange that i'll likely never experience "rough" sex, because my bf doesn't seem to be curious or interested about it, and i would definitely feel too embarrassed to ask and make him aware of my fetishes. knowing him he'd just make a weird face while staring at me, and i would have embarrassed myself for nothing. so, the only way i can experience my fantasies is through erotica, until the day i die probably.
>>34479153Ask him what he thinks about various kinks. He may be holding back because he knows you're inexperienced. Remember if you try anything new in the bedroom that not rushing it and practicing communication is key to having a good experience.
>>34479153No man will ever love you fucking nasty bitch.
Congrats you wasted your virginity on someone you are sexually incompatible with. He will never do it naturally. It will always be like he is imitating and acting how to do it
>>34479153I'll fuck your face. I love fucking girls' face. >oh no but my bfSo what bitch? Open your mouth
>>34479153wow, women really are just nasty whores in their default settings, huh?
>>34479153Use your words and ask him. He cannot magically read your thoughts. Use your words and talk to him outside of sex. It's up to you to have a satisfying sex life.
>>34479214>He will never do it naturally. It will always be like he is imitating and acting how to do yep this is part of the reason why i don't want to bring it up. but i have a low libido anyways so i don't consider this a huge relationship red flag. it just makes me kinda sad recently. but not enough to consider ending the relationship or anything like that honestly.>>34479185it's dumb but i also just feel too embarrassed even though your advice is good as general advice. and i know he'd just feel awkward upon hearing it.
>>34479310if fantasizing alone makes a woman seem that way imagine men who are the ones fueling every degeneration
>>34479219Fuck my face plz
>>34479577Obvious troon alert
>>34479580You wish faggot
>>34479153dumbass if you're really a woman posting that, it only serves cumers and makes the rest laugh at younobody's going to help you for real here
>>34479593why would i care if another loser on 4chan laughs at me? there's a reason why i'd never speak of this to anyone irl, only anonymously lol. sometimes you just need to share your troubles, no matter how weird, if you can't ever talk about them irl to anyone .
>>34479603hiding behind anonymity doesn't change that you're exposing yourself for nothingno one here will help
>>34479310And a lot of us love them all the more for it>>34479465I think trusting each other with those awkward steps is what's needed to develop those deeper connections. Obviously opening up to someone is easier said than done and I'm probably not the most qualified person to give this advice, but I think it really does matter in the long term. You don't have to do it all at once on him, but maybe sprinkle it in every now and then. Like "hey could we try something a little bit rougher this time" or when flirting with him learn and use submissive pick up lines to signal your willingness to explore further with him. For me as an example with my ex, I never really touched on my dominant tendencies at first because I was worried it would make her uncomfortable but after learning what she was into I was enthusiastic to indulge in it with her because I knew it would be a fun new source of mutual pleasure for us.
>>34479609hmm yeah maybe i was naive because i assumed maybe someone could be able to relate on a hypothetical level and tell me what he'd like his gf to do or say in this situation. but i guess the situation will remain the same and i'll just shut up and make sure he doesn't know this stuff about me.
honestly, it definitely awkward for both parties in this situation. He might have the same fear of sharing it, like what if he tries to act out some of the kinks or fetishes and you reject it and are disgusted by it. Someone has to break the silence and bring it up to communicate or basically nothing kinky will happen. Do you know if he did that sort of stuff in past relationships?
>>34479613keeping it secret forever will only make you sadstart with something mild and let him see you're curious
>>34479612Idk I did once tell him that I had a dream where I gave him a bj while he was playing vidya (I never talk about sexual stuff like this and it was a lie) to see if he'd say something suggestive to it or react positively in any way, because it was something I wanted to do. but he clearly heard me, seemingly felt awkward, and ignored it. I did it early on into our relationship and it did affect me to be honest, I don't like "suggesting" things anymore. And yes I know it was vague but cmon if your gf in a flirty voice tells you she had a dream of her giving you a bj, what man wouldn't take the bait? I wish he asked me to give him one, but I feel like i'd be a slut if I directly asked him. I guess I accept this is just my life, the relationship is good in other ways thankfully .
>>34479613You're retarded. A few words could improve your sex life tremendously. Talk to him, maybe he is thinking the same shit as you. I swear this hellhole is just ragebait.
>>34479622I think it'd be fair to ask that of an experienced woman who is confident in her sexuality, but this is my first bf, I'm not experienced. And I'm just a loser, I get too embarrassed talking about sexual things irl. I've tried a couple times and it always resulted in me feeling bad.
>>34479620As a rule of thumb when communicating with men, we're as dense as lead when it comes to sorting out inner messages like that. It's common for women to have to ask their men for something multiple times in multiple ways before he picks up on it. Unless if he has communication issues he'll usually be blunt if he feels uncomfortable about something. The part of feeling like a slut for asking him for something sexual is also something that needs to be worked through. Be patient with yourself, you're likely working against the programming you've been raised in your entire life to keep yourself sexually reserved to everyone but now you're with someone you feel intimate with. Let the relationship develop into this safe place where you can feel comfortable voicing your needs. It won't happen over night but that doesn't mean it won't happen at all.>>34479632Practice. Practice chatting with him about what you guys like. It's going to feel awkward at first because you're not used to it. Hopefully one day it will feel as natural as any other conversation.
>>34479577What state? I'm in FL
>>34479153>he doesn't seem very sexually curious/doesn't seem to like trying new thingsHappens, he's already tried everything so he's more apathetic and less enthused than someone who hadn't yet>hardcore erotica about facefucking and stuff like that, or rape fantasies and being "used". V tame common shit
>>34479632Alright, stop that low self esteem bullshit. How do you think you can become experienced? That's right, by doing it. So stop being a coward for 2 minutes and go talk to your man. Open your mouth and work toward happiness or shut the fuck up and be sad in silence like a loser.
>>34479728How old are you
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>>34479153Anon, if you can't have a conversation about this with your boyfriend, the relationship is doomed. Relationships depend on the ability of both people to communicate with each other; if you can't, you won't stay together long. Suck it up and talk to him.
>>34479153I don't believe you for one moment, but for the ones who might have this "problem": don't be a retard and talk to your partner, if you love him or her so much.>>34479214>sexually incompatibleGroomer faggot off yourself
